Jillo, I am on med for ADHD.
Without, even the best therapy doesn't do a thing.
I am prepared to be in need for ADHD med for my whole life. If I come to a point when meds are becoming unnecessary, great. Otherwise, it's not the end of the world : many people live with meds for their whole life, be for diabetes, be for asthma, be for epilepsy etc...
ADHD made me so unable to function that I couldn't do much of my life. I dropped out my studies after the Bac. I couldn't read a page of a book. I couldn't even help mom at home. I don't call it a life, by no way.
So the ADHD med was, and is still, the small price to pay to have a dignitful life. I found some tricks to live with my ADHD, to organize myself, to coach myself. We did that when I was a child, but my ADHD went worse after my Bac. It was not diagnosed before 2009.
I don't say that pharmaceutical companies are angels. I don't say that overprescription doesn't exist.
But living without meds, be for depression, be for diabetes... is not the way we have to think about the objective. The objective is living the best way we can with our pathology. Therapy helps, for sure.
Then, after a certain amount of time in therapy, we can think about stopping meds or not. For some people, stopping meds can be a reasonable goal, for other people it's not a reasonnable goal. But it's not something we shall think at the very beginning.
Meds is not the panacea, it doesn't do the whole job. But it helps.
As a person who deals with ADHD, some LD, sensory issues and SSD, the aim in life is living it to its fullest. So the question of "with or without meds" is absolutely not a priority : living a good life doesn't limit at this question. I see it as a very small question, not the major one.
I have suffered from depression.
I took Effexor during one year, then I stopped it very gradually.
My depression expressed itself by crying all the time, being tired even after good nights and being indifferent about not being able to do absolutely anything.
I was put under Effexor by a psychiatrist at 37.5mg (normally, the therapeutic dose is higher, but I am a sensitive one). Within three days, I had the full effect (the psychiatrist I had had never seen that in her career).
We had to open the caps to withdraw the Effexor, apart than that, it was quite uneventful.
The only side effect I had with Effexor was diarrhoea at night. But no nausea, no serious weight loss, nothing to be written of.
I was having talk therapy (which I had for many years).
We thought about stopping Effexor after a year of it, when I reached a better balance in life. But stopping the antidepressant was not our first goal : our first goal was the balance in life. After, the question of stopping the antidepressant came naturally, and we could stop it without any problem.
Loghead, don't think that far as "it may be for the rest of my life". It's really not the moment : no one has the answer right now.
Think first about caring your depression. Therapy has to be part of your regimen : the med won't make the whole job by itself.
Then, the question of stopping the medicine or not will get a clearer answer. It's not a question your physician can reply right now : he has no more crystal ball than anyone else here or elsewhere.
But the aim now is caring this major depressive disorder and build your life. The idea is one day at time, without looking too far away.
And just to reply to people who say that meds become inefficient after a period of time, I answer : it depends of the person. Some will take the same med for the rest of their life. Some will have to change med. Some can live without med. Some will take it for their life. There is no single rule, as everyone react differently even with the same diagnosis.
We can't make a prognosis, as no one can know what will happen in the future.
Good luck