Afraid to love again with someone else....

[Kalista]

You know love can be so selfish and bitter. Sometimes after making you feel so happy and wonderful inside. There is only one risk in life worth taking, it's the risk of getting hurt when you fall in-love because experiencing the joy of being in-love is worth all the pain anytime. It's better to meet the person who will love you later than meet someone now who promises to love you but sooner or later leave you forever. Friendship is just about the only way to keep the light in the hearts of two people glowing when they find out that love wasn't really meant to happen to them.

Friendship can be forever to prevent fell in love to cause hurtful their relationship. I assume that I am not ready to love again with someone else.

 

[sequoias]

Do you mean that you're afraid to lose someone again if you loved someone? I understand how you feel. It sucks losing your husband in less than a year after marrying him. I know you need someone who can last for a long time in the future. Once again, I'm sorry for your loss.

 

[moonflower]

wow kalista i know what is like being so afraid to love again after the loss i hope you will be allright

i felt the same i am afraid to love again after last guy ruined my trust to love after we broke up oh well but i always treat my male friends as friends but i don't know about to love in fear of getting hurting again since i got hurt too much.

 

[Gemma]

Honey,

I know that you lost love of your life but Andrew would not want you to live the rest of your life afraid. Of course, you will never love a man the way you love Andrew but you can love again.

Falling in love is a wonderful process but yeah, it is scary. But you cant stay afraid for the rest of your life I have been through several major heartbreaks yet I keep going. Im not going to let fear stop me from living the way I want.

You dont have to fall in love and rush things fast - you can fall in love slowly and take one day at a time. Dont think about the fact that you could get hurt again because it will ruin your process.

HUGS HUGS HUGS XO

 

[sara1981]

oh wow,Kalista

I know how your feeling if your husband Andrew would alives today and im sure if you ready for another love or not that your choice i cant blame you.

mostly divorces and widowers wanted more lovers or not they still singles for longers dues husband dies for longtimes for more reasons they wont haunted at you if Andrew wont haunted you i know Andrew always polite i respect you and Andrew.

my grandma been widow for 19 years since my late grandfather's passed away in 1976 but i never see my late grandfather before i was born in 1981 and my brother,my cousin also but my grandfather was nice man that my grandma and my mom talking about that. So my grandma got remarried in 1995 they still married for 12 years.My late grandfather love grandchildren very much because i was his first granddaughter that why.

 

[Kalista]

Honey,

I know that you lost love of your life but Andrew would not want you to live the rest of your life afraid. Of course, you will never love a man the way you love Andrew but you can love again.

Falling in love is a wonderful process but yeah, it is scary. But you cant stay afraid for the rest of your life I have been through several major heartbreaks yet I keep going. Im not going to let fear stop me from living the way I want.

You dont have to fall in love and rush things fast - you can fall in love slowly and take one day at a time. Dont think about the fact that you could get hurt again because it will ruin your process.

HUGS HUGS HUGS XO

Gemma

Yes exactly, I need to learn slow down. I do admire his sweet personality and brilliant. He has a sense of humor which I need some laughing. I did apology him for my misbehavior. He said, Do not be sorry ! You are just being yourself, Remember I do not make any judgement on you! I know what it feels like to be lonely. I can be lonesome in the middle of no where in this state. It makes me feel better when he replied on my pager.

I was afraid, he may not type with me - I am not that attractive myself how I look in the naked with mirror. It reminds me that I look like Mrs. Doubtfire in the movie.

He is very sweet and good listener to give me alot of positive. I really enjoy his company very much, I need to learn to slow down.... Did not want to hurt myself again due to long distance relationship.

I am looking forward to meet him one day when the right time will tell us. It is very rare men out there like him and Andrew... You know... Of course, Andrew does not want to seeing me lonesome and isolate forever. My mother in law said, the same thing to me. She strongly encourages me to dating with other guys as company and entertainment as much as I can. Life is such short !

xoxoxo Kalista

 

[Kalista]

wow kalista i know what is like being so afraid to love again after the loss i hope you will be allright

i felt the same i am afraid to love again after last guy ruined my trust to love after we broke up oh well but i always treat my male friends as friends but i don't know about to love in fear of getting hurting again since i got hurt too much.

Important follow your heart that your trustworthy develops better with a right guy. Step by step slow down is the best for us !

It is very normal for everyone fear to getting hurt again when you fell in love with someone else then he/she hurt you for some reason. Hate go through break the heart...

Hang in there !

 

[Kalista]

Do you mean that you're afraid to lose someone again if you loved someone? I understand how you feel. It sucks losing your husband in less than a year after marrying him. I know you need someone who can last for a long time in the future. Once again, I'm sorry for your loss.

Thanks Sequoias ! I need to move on with my life, Andrew does not want me to stay grief rest of my life. He wanted me to enjoy my life as much as I can. Friendship can be forever than love or serious in the relationship.

Long distance relationship sometime pains in the neck ! Job, family, education and house, etc.... We have to give up one of those for that person.

 

[Kalista]

my grandma been widow for 19 years since my late grandfather's passed away in 1976 but i never see my late grandfather before i was born in 1981 and my brother,my cousin also but my grandfather was nice man that my grandma and my mom talking about that. So my grandma got remarried in 1995 they still married for 12 years.My late grandfather love grandchildren very much because i was his first granddaughter that why.

My Dad is widowed since 1990, he has not dating with anyone or remarried with someone else. I did not want to be like him. Need to move on with my life.

Thanks for sharing a story about your grandfather and grandmother. Glad, your grandmother remarried. Company, love, affectionate and intimacy are very healthy and stay life longer !

 

[moonflower]

Important follow your heart that your trustworthy develops better with a right guy. Step by step slow down is the best for us !

It is very normal for everyone fear to getting hurt again when you fell in love with someone else then he/she hurt you for some reason. Hate go through break the heart...

Hang in there !

that is good taking slow is the best thing in relationships
if i met anyone. i will do the same. take so slow and get to know him and etc...rather be so afraid.

 

[Gemma]

If this guy doesnt mind you making mistakes every once in a while, then he is a GEM to keep!

Wish me luck - going out on a hot date tonight Of course, it is damn scary but gotta do it

Long distance or short distance, it is scary yet worth it when you do find that real Love

HUGS

 

[moonflower]

right Gemma
good luck on your date smile

 

[shel90]

Wow Kalista! I have to agree with the others that Andrew wouldnt want you to be afraid to try again. He was one of the most selfless people I have ever met.

I was a little bit afraid to love my current hubby cuz I was hurt by my divorce but someone told me that life is about taking risks.

Hope everything goes well and important you follow your heart about what feels right.

 

[Canuckian_Chick]

Aww I'll have to agree with others, you can't stop living being afraid... I know it's not easy but remember this, just take one step at a time, give it a try, if not, don't force yourself. Also you will always have a big piece of Andrew in your heart that will never be replaced. Just be yourself, be kind to yourself as you know Love is patience. Be blessed with friends and family supporting you!!! smile... hang in there!!

 

[sequoias]

Thanks Sequoias ! I need to move on with my life, Andrew does not want me to stay grief rest of my life. He wanted me to enjoy my life as much as I can. Friendship can be forever than love or serious in the relationship.

Long distance relationship sometime pains in the neck ! Job, family, education and house, etc.... We have to give up one of those for that person.

I'm sure he is free and he will be happy to let you go in search for someone, of course take your time to feel comfortable with dating again. He will be always in your heart in your life, remembering your life with him and all. It's pretty much better to move on with your life. It's pretty tough losing someone that you love suddenly vanished into other dimension.

 

[TweetyBird]

just be urself til u feel ready for relationship.. TAKE UR TIME..

 

[Kalista]

If this guy doesnt mind you making mistakes every once in a while, then he is a GEM to keep!

Wish me luck - going out on a hot date tonight Of course, it is damn scary but gotta do it

Long distance or short distance, it is scary yet worth it when you do find that real Love HUGS

yes true, dating can be friends. We do sometime need some fun as company. I do not see anything wrong with that.

Hope, you had a good date last night. Did he break your bed ? Soak all of your sheets? No wonder, I saw a furniture truck park at your driveway to replace a new bed frame. ** close my eyes **

 

[Kalista]

Wow Kalista! I have to agree with the others that Andrew wouldnt want you to be afraid to try again. He was one of the most selfless people I have ever met.

I was a little bit afraid to love my current hubby cuz I was hurt by my divorce but someone told me that life is about taking risks.

Hope everything goes well and important you follow your heart about what feels right.

Andrew did mention that your husband is very nice guy when they were roommmates in MD. What a small world !! He is your secure man rest of your life. I envy that he is a good cooking you good meals daily to treat you like a queen. I hate to cook sometime.

 

[Kalista]

Aww I'll have to agree with others, you can't stop living being afraid... I know it's not easy but remember this, just take one step at a time, give it a try, if not, don't force yourself. Also you will always have a big piece of Andrew in your heart that will never be replaced. Just be yourself, be kind to yourself as you know Love is patience. Be blessed with friends and family supporting you!!! smile... hang in there!!

Hi Canuckian

Your Avatar looks great ! Nice to seeing your face !

Yeah, we need to move on with our life daily. Andrew always be my Guardian Angel. Thanks for your good reinforcement me

Yes, slow down is very important instead of make another mistake.

Thanks!

Kalista

 

[Kalista]

I'm sure he is free and he will be happy to let you go in search for someone, of course take your time to feel comfortable with dating again. He will be always in your heart in your life, remembering your life with him and all. It's pretty much better to move on with your life. It's pretty tough losing someone that you love suddenly vanished into other dimension.

Yes exactly ! We have to strength daily in our life with bad day and good day....