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A sad but true story

A 47-year-old Kurdish father who slit his teenage daughter's throat after she started dating a man from outside her own culture was yesterday jailed for life.

Police said the murder of Heshu Yones, 16, was an honour killing. Her father, Abdalla Yones, subjected her to months of beatings before stabbing her 17 times because he feared Heshu was too westernised.

The teenager had been planning to run away from home. In a note to her father she tried to cope with her ordeal by joking about the beatings he meted out to her: "Hey, for an older man you have a good strong punch and kick."

Yones, an Iraqi Kurd who gained indefinite leave to remain in Britain after opposing the Saddam Hussein dictatorship, begged an Old Bailey judge to order his execution.

Yones, a Muslim, had become "disgusted and distressed" by his daughter's relationship with an 18-year-old Lebanese Christian A-level student.

In October last year Heshu barricaded herself in the bathroom of the family home in west London. The father broke down the door and stabbed his daughter repeatedly, before slitting her throat and leaving her bleeding in the bath.

Then Yones attempted suicide by cutting his throat and throwing himself off a third floor balcony.

He was in hospital for several months and claimed that al-Qaida had broken into the family flat and murdered his daughter.

Heshu was described as a "bubbly" and "fun loving girl" in court. The jury was read a farewell letter the teenager wrote to her father as she planned to run away.

In it she apologised for having been a problem, promised to pay back any money she owed him and asked him not to worry about her.

The letter read: "Bye Dad, sorry I was so much trouble.

"Me and you will probably never understand each other, but I'm sorry I wasn't what you wanted, but there's some things you can't change.

"Hey, for an older man you have a good strong punch and kick.

"I hope you enjoyed testing your strength on me, it was fun being on the receiving end. Well done.

"One day when I have got a proper job, every penny I owe you will be repaid in full.

"I'm sure in saying I will be safe. I will find a way to independently look after myself.

"I will go to social security and get myself a flat or hostel. I will be okay.

"Don't look for me because I don't know where I'm going yet, I just want to be alone."

The court heard her grades had begun to slip. To limit any offence to her father, Heshu would wait until reaching college to put on make-up.

Yones never adapted to life in Britain and the cultural tensions it placed on his family; he wanted his daughter to observe his interpretation of strict tradition, but she wanted a more liberal life.

Yones was described as "a fish out of water" and became depressed, but his children thrived and Heshu studied at the William Morris Academy in Fulham, south-west London.

Sentencing Yones, who pleaded guilty, to life imprisonment, Judge Neil Denison said the Kurd was still suicidal: "This is, on any view, a tragic story arising out of irreconcilable cultural differ ences between traditional Kurdish values and the values of western society."

Icah Peart QC, defending Yones, said that before the murder his client had received a letter, written in Kurdish, describing his daughter as a slut who was sleeping with her boyfriend on a daily basis.

"He was disgusted and distressed by the letter, which he threw away in his anger," said Mr Peart.

"He did not want to believe what he had read although he suspected there might be some truth in it. He could not stop brooding on the content of the letter."

Scotland Yard yesterday said there had been 12 "honour killings" across different communities in the last year in Britain.

Police define an honour killing as a murder motivated by perceived dishonour to a family or community and stress that it is not limited to Islamic communities. There have been examples of Sikh and Christian honour killings.

Commander Andy Baker said Heshu had suffered "very significant physical abuse" in the months leading up to the killing, but it was never reported to police.

The issue of honour killings is being researched by the Metropolitan police racial and violent crimes task force and Mr Baker said many communities were helping police understand the practice.

"We've got to stop it, we can prevent these murders," he said, adding that a handful of people still believed it was an appropriate cultural response.

People who had tried to protect Yones could be investigated on suspicion of perverting the course of justice, he said.

"We are completely satisfied that some members of the community, or his friends, tried to assist him in that cover-up," said Mr Baker.

Sawsan Salim, coordinator of the Kurdistan Refugees Women's Organisation, said most Kurds condemned honour killings. The group has campaigned against murders and domestic violence against women.

"No one has the right to kill women under any name, whether it is God or culture," Ms Salim said. "No excuse should be given for such a brutal tragedy."

Aisha Gill, a lecturer in criminology at the University of Surrey, said there were examples where men accused of honour killings had used a "cultural defence" argument.

"What is important to emphasise here is that cultural rights cannot override women's right to life," she wrote in a recent edition of Police Review.

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Police in UK claim that at least a dozen women and girls are murdered for this reason in this country annually.

Sue and I feel that gender issues are too important to ignore, and we think that NCN needs to do more in this area.
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Exteremly sad
 
Ohh Dear..it is very sad but that is the way of life over there..that is
what these weird people do...I cant imagine the parent(s) do that
to their own child though..it is just to unbearable to think about,
geez!
These people will have to answer to God for these terrible acts
that they do ......
All we can do is pray for these unfortunate children who are at
mercy of their unfeeling parents.....
 
This reminds me of an episode on Law & Order: Special Victims Unit. There was this Afghanistan diplomat whose daughter was murdered. Detectives came to realize that the victim's brother was the killer acting under orders of their father who strongly believed that girls who followed American cultures (sleep with boyfriend, not wear veils, etc) are considered whores and must be murdered to restore the family's honor. Unfortunately, they couldn't really touch the father for he was a diplomat.
 
VamPyroX said:
This reminds me of an episode on Law & Order: Special Victims Unit. There was this Afghanistan diplomat whose daughter was murdered. Detectives came to realize that the victim's brother was the killer acting under orders of their father who strongly believed that girls who followed American cultures (sleep with boyfriend, not wear veils, etc) are considered whores and must be murdered to restore the family's honor. Unfortunately, they couldn't really touch the father for he was a diplomat.
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yes I saw that show too.. Too sad abt it. I feel bad for the girl.
 
Defee said:
Ohh Dear..it is very sad but that is the way of life over there..that is.....
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Yes, it is sad enough that it happens in the Middle East.

Now, it is worse because they are bringing that culture to the West.

This killing happened in London, England.
 
*coughing* that horrible..

Out there must change for justice proprite way for Isamaic law must stop as family's honor!
 
GalaxyAngel said:
*coughing* that horrible..

Out there must change for justice proprite way for Isamaic law must stop as family's honor!
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The family lived in England. They should obey English law.
 
I heard it on the news yesterday but it was different people. I believe it happen in Jordan. There this father shot his teenage daughter 4 times because he thought she lost her virginity. But she didn't lose her virgin. He was doing this to honour their family.

This is very sad to kill their children.
 
Reba said:
The family lived in England. They should obey English law.
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Yeah. They are carried away too far and continue their beliefs and anywhere living at... Doesn't matter where you're living...

As same here in another town and seen them Man mockery to his wife and front of me.. I did stood up and say STOP! being mockery your own wife!
Do you have problem? He stunned surprised :eek3: and grabbed his wife away!

I think their own religion still same.. no changes.. SAD!

Epically In Islamic prefer stay always their own country that's fine w/me but some of Arabians moved another country and ongoing still their religions... not even willing change it which isn't country followed.. Example
China always same their own languages and even move to Canada and always seen their languages doesn't change.. Exactly as same others people who coming from.. Sad!
 
VamPyroX said:
This reminds me of an episode on Law & Order: Special Victims Unit. There was this Afghanistan diplomat whose daughter was murdered. Detectives came to realize that the victim's brother was the killer acting under orders of their father who strongly believed that girls who followed American cultures (sleep with boyfriend, not wear veils, etc) are considered whores and must be murdered to restore the family's honor. Unfortunately, they couldn't really touch the father for he was a diplomat.
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haha, yeah it does...i've seen that one too...but then again, i've seen almost every SVU and CI episode..
anyways, yeah..that's a pretty sad story :(
 
whoa, it just so sad how any parent can do that to their children. I as a father could never do nothing like that to my darling children. The problem with parenting these days is parents are not involved with their childrens lives enough & don't expect things like that girl was planning. Gotta be the parent, be there for the children. Any their questions the best way possible. & Once again be there for them all the way through thick & thin. They need us as parents no matter what.
 
I don't like that! It is totally disgusted. They don't know how to let women go and leave them alone! This is usually middle eastern do control the women's life. Yes very much sad story. I hope the government in England will be something to prevent abusing and the torture to middle eastern females and the kids. Poor girl and I hope her spirit is in peace. Hey, life is tough and unfair.
 
It's sad that is still happening anywhere else in the world to bring their culture of honor killing. It should be stop and it is not acceptable to do that anywhere.
 
it sucks i know and I odn't know why they keep doing that even tho they were in different country blah. that is sad to see a lady dead such young like 16.. :(
 
That is so sad, if the family wanna to carry on the traditional ways, they should move to other eastern countries who have same belief as them... rather than moving to western countries.

As they move to England, they should have adapted the English ways, laws and learning an new culture, different world than it was in the old ways of their old home country.
 
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