A Deafie's Pet Peeve About Living Among The Hearies

whatdidyousay! said:
I was called deafie when I was younger by 2 sisters and ex brother and it sure wasn't a " term of endearment " . I still don't like the word today. This is my personal feeling , other people feel difference about this and that is fine with me.
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you do understand what cultural norms are though right?

and how what seemingly could be the same word can be used for every different reasons by different cultures and races..

the N word is a classic example of this process.

your not Deaf so you wont understand how we use it..
 
whatdidyousay! said:
I was called deafie when I was younger by 2 sisters and ex brother and it sure wasn't a " term of endearment " . I still don't like the word today. This is my personal feeling , other people feel difference about this and that is fine with me.
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Sorry about your experience. When I was little, I was a "hearie" and my sister was a "deafie." She was the older sibling and used the terms in writing, so there was less sting for us. Words themselves don't really cause problems--it's the attitude behind them. :ily:
 
Chase said:
Sorry about your experience. When I was little, I was a "hearie" and my sister was a "deafie." She was the older sibling and used the terms in writing, so there was less sting for us. Words themselves don't really cause problems--it's the attitude behind them. :ily:
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I agree , and it the way I was called deafie was meant to hurt me , it was harder being deaf or HOH when I was kid . People were so uneducated about it and
including the doctors. I lived 3 houses away from our family doctor so he saw a lot and he never got it that I was HOH.
 
has anyone ever discovered or know that the N word was once and still is an insult, yet the very same N word with slight modification can be and often is used by those it once and still is an insulting word too?

perhaps this can help some in understanding how the term deafie ended up as Deafie...

just a thought..a mental exercise, to help illuminate particularly in the case as used on whatdidyousay

im sure the doc and everyone you said what too more than once was aware you were HOH..
they may hav enot state dit in so many words but they all knew full well, after what did you say number 5 they got it
 
Since I am in the hearing world for work only, I dont really interact with them socially because I dont see the need for it. I dont really get annoyed by them because I just keep things on a professional level and rarely get personal with them. When I was growing up being mainstreamed the usual stuff like the "Neverminds or I will tell you laters" were my biggest pet peeve.
 
I have notice some people posting that hearing peoples don't belong here then they complain that hearing peoples don't understand them . How else can hearing people get to understand us if they're aren't made to feel welcome here and they will end up not wanting to even take the time to know deaf or hoh person at work etc.
 
whatdidyousay! said:
I have notice some people posting that hearing peoples don't belong here then they complain that hearing peoples don't understand them . How else can hearing people get to understand us if they're aren't made to feel welcome here and they will end up not wanting to even take the time to know deaf or hoh person at work etc.
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there si no us in this

your NOT Deaf...

so rather then wanting hearies to understand that
YOU first need to understand that
 
whatdidyousay! said:
I have notice some people posting that hearing peoples don't belong here then they complain that hearing peoples don't understand them . How else can hearing people get to understand us if they're aren't made to feel welcome here and they will end up not wanting to even take the time to know deaf or hoh person at work etc.
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Good post, Whatdidyousay! Of course we can know the hearie world better is we share our deafie world with them.

Back to pet peeves: Not really a peeve but a funny look on some hearing people's faces when they obviously have been talking to me while my back is turned. It's so funny when they tap or pull on my shoulder and demand, "Are you deaf?"

I always sign "Yes!" and say "Yes, I am." The look on faces says they didn't expect the honest answer to a rhetorical question. :D
 
Chase said:
Good post, Whatdidyousay! Of course we can know the hearie world better is we share our deafie world with them.

Back to pet peeves: Not really a peeve but a funny look on some hearing people's faces when they obviously have been talking to me while my back is turned. It's so funny when they tap or pull on my shoulder and demand, "Are you deaf?"

Yeah but I still feel some people don't agree with this .
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hoichi said:
has anyone ever discovered or know that the N word was once and still is an insult, yet the very same N word with slight modification can be and often is used by those it once and still is an insulting word too?

perhaps this can help some in understanding how the term deafie ended up as Deafie...

just a thought..a mental exercise, to help illuminate particularly in the case as used on whatdidyousay

im sure the doc and everyone you said what too more than once was aware you were HOH..
they may hav enot state dit in so many words but they all knew full well, after what did you say number 5 they got it
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This link answers your question about the origin to the modern use of the word... Warning, this writing may be offensive to some.
http://www.aaregistry.org/historic_events/view/nigger-word-brief-history
 
Okay, I give. All who constantly derailed this thread win. No more pet peeves, except this last one:

The derails are good examples of the "crab bucket syndrome" many deaf people exhibit. No matter what another deaf person tries to accomplish, others take delight in pulling him down.
 
The dulled senses hearing people experience, honestly. I always go, "WHOA! Did you see that?" And they see nothing.

Or when we read body language and know things about people (like if they're probably being honest) and hearing people have no idea.

It's like color vs monochrome.
 
Muse said:
The dulled senses hearing people experience, honestly. I always go, "WHOA! Did you see that?" And they see nothing.

Or when we read body language and know things about people (like if they're probably being honest) and hearing people have no idea.

It's like color vs monochrome.
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Yeah this happen to me a few times , and it was too heavy for me. Once I was visiting my neighbor and her b/f was there too. My neighbor told me that they were getting married and I looked at the b/f and read him like a book . He notice this and gave me a warning not to say anything , the b/f was engaged to marry another woman and had no plans to my neighbor . The next time I saw my neighbor she told that she broke up with her b/f b/c he was engaged with another woman! I never saw the guy before but I was able to read his body language , I don't think my neighbor would had believe me if I told her what I knew. This kind of stuff happen to me few times and I try to shut it off !
 
Chase said:
I'm the only deaf person in my circle of friends. I'm sure many hearies view my deafness as a hurdle to communications. This thread is a discussions of some problems innocently caused by those who don't understand ASL, lip-reading, notes, etcetera.

Pet peeve #1. :yesway: thumbs up for everything from soup to nuts. When I'm introduced to someone new or I let a person I just met know I'm deaf, many suddenly begin to throw :yesway: thumbs up in the air. Not just for "okay" or "all right" but for everything.

Me: Hi, my name's Chase.
Them: :yesway:

Me: What's your name?
Them: :yesway:

Me: Actually, the sign for "chase" is one thumb up chasing the other thumb up.
Them: :yesway:

Me: Well, nice to meet you. Goodbye.
Them: :yesway:

If you're a deafie, what's your pet peeve?


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I'm a CODA a hearing person so I know both sides of the fence. I just want to apologize for the for the ignorance of the hearing people. They just don't know any better
 
Chase said:
Sorry about your experience. When I was little, I was a "hearie" and my sister was a "deafie." She was the older sibling and used the terms in writing, so there was less sting for us. Words themselves don't really cause problems--it's the attitude behind them. :ily:
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I'm a CODA so I know both sides of the fence. Let me apologize for the ignorance of the hearing people. They just don't know know any better
 
Chase said:
Okay, I give. All who constantly derailed this thread win. No more pet peeves, except this last one:

The derails are good examples of the "crab bucket syndrome" many deaf people exhibit. No matter what another deaf person tries to accomplish, others take delight in pulling him down.
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Sadly this is not a hearing related issue but a human one... society has many illnesses, delight in pulling other person down or tearing into them is one of the sicknesses in society...
 
whatdidyousay! said:
Yeah this happen to me a few times , and it was too heavy for me. Once I was visiting my neighbor and her b/f was there too. My neighbor told me that they were getting married and I looked at the b/f and read him like a book . He notice this and gave me a warning not to say anything , the b/f was engaged to marry another woman and had no plans to my neighbor . The next time I saw my neighbor she told that she broke up with her b/f b/c he was engaged with another woman! I never saw the guy before but I was able to read his body language , I don't think my neighbor would had believe me if I told her what I knew. This kind of stuff happen to me few times and I try to shut it off !
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LOL, exactly! :) Sometimes I have to be careful and not react to what I see.

It does come in super handy. Like when checking out college professors for the semester to decide which class to take, all I need is a minute of watching the body language of the professor and I have a very good impression of whether or not that class is good for my GPA.

Or when negotiating, sometimes I've been known to look at the person for a second and have a very good impression of whether they're telling the truth or not. (These are actually understatements of how much we see as Deaf people!)

And then like you said about your neighbor not believing you, when I try to share this with hearing people, they don't experience it so they don't get it. They think that your ability is not that different from their ability to read people. When in reality, they have no clue.


Thanks for sharing that story :)
 
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