My daughter is 3 years and 3 months old. She had her implant at 2 years 1 month old and activated at 2 years 2 months old, so she has been wearing it for 1 year and 1 month. Progress with hearing is good (not so with other areas since she has multiple disabilities) and last March, we already achieved 100% normal hearing for her which means she can hear almost everything normal people can hear.
normal people mmm.....
i thought the op was a troll post, and waited for others to reply to it...given others don't see this post as a troll post, ill swing in.
before i do i want to state i teach the use of violence and how to avoid violence for a living, so a post that deals with the use of violence on another human being to force them to do your will, is a post i am doubly interested.
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However, just this August, she started acting up and removing the processor. She has done this many times before but not aggressively, only when hearing loud sounds, and she is pretty tolerant and would wear her processor all day until she goes to sleep. This month, she started aggressively removing her processor, grabbing it and crying very loudly when she can hear.
usually human beings when they begin to act aggressively learn that aggressive behaviour from others. (nows a good time for the op to glance at a mirror). others close to them, usually if those others use violence against that human being, such as pins, holds, and locks, to force that human being to use a product that human doesn't want to use, then naturally aggression will be returned..and this will only get worse, violence breads violence at that age, aggression breads aggression.
this is not solely a unique human phenomenon either. though we are the masters of violence in this world of ours we are not the only users of it. the difference is human beings, mothers of 3 year old daughters generally are supposed to well, mmmmm,,,,use a human quality, granted not all humans nor all mothers of 3 year olds posses is termed "reason".."
before using violence. (raises hand in understanding, i know,,,i know,,,)
higher mammals of most kinds will also use what is termed "the curve of aggression", which is what you have described here regarding your daughters resistance to your violence on her to force her to use a product choice.
take a dog as an example, (i love dogs...if i had a choice between a dog or a human to watch my back when it counted ill choose the pooch every damn time..), anyway before the dog is broken by the level of violence a human being can bring to bear on it, most dogs will also resist as best they can, until they are broken by the human who seeks to dominate the "other" by the force of will and violence, for what ever the reason, often enough this violence will be used against the k9 to have the k9 do tricks, turn around, roll over, stand on its snout, all for human laughs....and smiles,,,haha...that kind of thing....
all the important things in life, humans, mothers of 3 year old daughters will use violence for. like to get your daughter to move her beak like a parrot, or turn around and roll over like a dog....jump through hoops, or what ever else you and yoru speech therapist will demand you daughter do, or else...
so on, so forth..
thing is
your daughter isn't a dog. using violence to break dogs to have them do tricks is rather sick behaviour..
violence shouldn't be used against dogs to have them do tricks for you, nor should violence be used against yoru daughter to have her do tricks for you and her speech therapists for that matter.
Whenever I hold the processor, she runs away from me. She hides the side of her head where the implant is or covers it with her hand. She also wrestles me when I pin her down. When I turn on the processor, she cries like she feels extreme pain and won't stop until I remove it, even for several minutes and with a lot of comforting/entertainment.
so your daughter runs, she flees from you, she hides her head away from you when you seek to control her head to cause her pain, by forcing her to use a product she doesn't want to use. , you in turn keeping with the curve of aggression, up the scale of violence against her to make her do your will. (at this time you can, but that doesn't last as your daughter will teach you), you forced her to do your will by wrestling your 3 year old daughter to the ground, by pinning her there, for the goal of forcing a product that was already drilled into her skull of no choice of her own, on to her even more, though
she clearly is telling you by her cries and behaviour that product is causing her not only discomfort but also judging by her responses to your behaviour and your very own words is causing her "extreme pain"
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and yet
you bring more violence to bear one her..
Nothing has changed since her program hasn't been adjusted since March. Everything is the same at home, our routines, therapy, etc. The only thing that I noticed changed is that she has the colds (no fever) and she has a clogged and runny nose.
Does the cold have anything to do with the problem? And what are the possible reasons why she is acting this way?
well colds and flues don't really cause human beings to become violent and aggressive. (that's not to state never mind you), they can with a combination of other factors but its hard to use violence when you have a very high fever and can't move much, after all your body had other things on its mind besides forcing your will on others, it has to first be able to use its will on itself...(heavy concepts i know i know)...
so i don't think that's the cause..
(sips coffee, cracks knuckles)
let me ask you a quick question..since you like using violence against children.
human beings (not all) but most posses a thing we term in english "empathy".
so running with this foreign idea for you, "empathy", i'm going to ask you something as a thought experiment..
how would you react if, I, or any other human being for that matter, decided for what ever my reasons to use violence against you, to force you to use a product of my choice, and that violence consisted of taking you to the ground, pinning you, using locks and holds to cause you pain for compliance and to eventually get you to use this product..(trust me the holds and pins you use on yoru daughter wont work on me)
any product
you choose..as your thinking long and hard on it ill choose but feel free to offer your own.
how about if the product was a huge dildo?
maybe that's too refined
how about if i just took this newspaper here rolled it up nice and tight and hard and (you fill int he rest|)
and i or another, decided to force you to not only use this huge dildo, or newspaper rolled just for you... but made sure you cried out (i'm Deaf its like space with me, no one will hear you scream),..cried out loud like your daughter in extreme pain?
what if instead of a stranger, this person is someone dear to you? someone you trust?
using that human trait we posses, well not you but others do, we term empathy..
how would you a women, a grown adult, a mother, like that?
how would you feel?
having answered the above
how do you think your daughter feels?
