I understand but isnt it interesting how the word "rape" offended others. That is what makes this forum interesting to me. To some, they can casually use it without a second thought but to others, it is a very serious matter to use that word so causually. I just love this website cuz it really makes me learn how to think outside of my comfort zone and to see how others really think and how they take things differently.
Pls dont get all upset but this forum unintentionally sparked some serious issues and obviously your thread started a debate whether u realize it or not. The word "rape " may have some serious implications for other AD members. That's all I was trying to point out. Smile. For me, I know where u and your husband are coming from...I love to "rape " my husband but for others, it is a word that may bring up unpleasant memories so just interesting how your thread unfolded. Smile. I think you and your hubby are wonderful people who have big hearts!