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This description, you made remind me of my wedding at almost 22 years ago... It's stressful and annoy...
My Dad often says "Who pays for wedding" and has the right to invite his friends to my wedding....blah blah.... His 2nd wife (I do not consider her as my step-mother") don't want to have children at my wedding blah blah blah... They treat me unfair and do what they want for my wedding etc... long story... It's really hell... It got my sister mad and scream on them that it's MY wedding, not their wedding...
Wedding and Honeymoon are over, we came home from honeymoon and open our wedding presents... I noticed that I didn't get a card from my Dad... I asked my Dad either any card from him for me because I didn't find it? Guess what... my Dad said that I forget quickly that he pays wedding... I was like Ooohhhh... My hubby & I gave the gifts to Dad and his 2nd wife to thank them for their "work hard" on our wedding... Guess what... they are not happy with this gifts, we gave them because of no jewellery... Fight with Granny over that... It was happened one day before we leave London for good to live in Germany. It really finish me off and can't bear anymore of their talk.... "Who pays wedding"... "You has no appreicate".... how wonderful wedding is.... blah blah blah... They "bullied" my self-esteem...
I stood up myself firm and finished them off in writing that you brag all the time how much you spent our wedding...and Did you tell anyone that my hubby, in-laws & I paid our share of our wedding as well?.. then plus told them that in-laws work hard to decorate our one bedroom apartment, plus flight expense, plus paid our wedding, plus hotel... with no complaint... Have you hear their complaints? Nope... At wedding day, I was your proud daughter but what about the past? My childhood was not happy one... You brag how wonderful wedding are... Where's your respect on my wedding wish? None, it's your wedding, you play with.. Why have you make my life miserable? Don't bother to drive us to airport to say good bye... Do you think it's nice way to say goodbye each other...? I feel much better after wrote a letter... and handle the letter to them... Of course they are shock and phone to Granny... Granny is also shock, too... They are cried... (my sister told me in the letter). Anyway, we left England with no wonderful farewell... You can image how reall pain, I feel...
10 years later, Dad admitted his mistake about our wedding and regret... I forgave him and move on...
This wedding issues remind me of our wedding... that's why I make sure that anyone stand up themselves and firm because it's THEIR wedding and THEIR own wishes, not everyone else period. It's their decision what they want with dresses, foods, etc... All what I do is wear the dress or whatever to fulfill bride's wishes. Their dream wishes should be match prefectly. This is so...
If my boys want to marry oversea, not in Germany or not want church or whatever... I will fulfill their wishes no matter what because its their wedding, not ours.
