wondering about the mind in this world being hearing impaired or deaf

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Me growing up ... i never really got to know social cues and how ppl thought.. in fact i didn't even realize i was a somebody until i left my family at 17 and hit the real world the hard way. and i was wondering if anyone else felt that way. like i feel like i missed something about how to be normal. i am non voilent and usually super trusting of everyone .. calm... gullible... and yet ppl still tell me i have no heart that i'm a cold person and i never mean to be that way. i have a 6 month daughter now and still i feel like something is missing.
i know my thoughts are random. sorrry. oh i just got implants. only a month into it. lots of tinnitus and still dealing with how weiird things sound. nothing like when i had hearings aids. thanks. :hmm:
 
Too many I know are like that. Really, you aren't missing anything, you got a baby girl, that's all you need to focus on. Yourself has grown, and you'll keep going, but best way is to set a role model for your daughter.

Good luck.

Change is good.
 
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Me growing up ... i never really got to know social cues and how ppl thought.. in fact i didn't even realize i was a somebody until i left my family at 17 and hit the real world the hard way. and i was wondering if anyone else felt that way. like i feel like i missed something about how to be normal. i am non voilent and usually super trusting of everyone .. calm... gullible... and yet ppl still tell me i have no heart that i'm a cold person and i never mean to be that way. i have a 6 month daughter now and still i feel like something is missing.
i know my thoughts are random. sorrry. oh i just got implants. only a month into it. lots of tinnitus and still dealing with how weiird things sound. nothing like when i had hearings aids. thanks. :hmm:
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Tell us abit more about you. Are you shy? Shy people can be misperceived as cold.

Also, do you mean that you wish that your parents had taught you etiquette?

Your parents raised you as an oral deaf kid?
 
honestjohn22 said:
Me growing up ... i never really got to know social cues and how ppl thought.. in fact i didn't even realize i was a somebody until i left my family at 17 and hit the real world the hard way. and i was wondering if anyone else felt that way. like i feel like i missed something about how to be normal. i am non voilent and usually super trusting of everyone .. calm... gullible... and yet ppl still tell me i have no heart that i'm a cold person and i never mean to be that way. i have a 6 month daughter now and still i feel like something is missing.
i know my thoughts are random. sorrry. oh i just got implants. only a month into it. lots of tinnitus and still dealing with how weiird things sound. nothing like when i had hearings aids. thanks. :hmm:
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Hey there. For a second there I though it was me who wrote the thread. I left home when I was 17, and then I had no social skills from being homeschooled for so long. Being hearing impaired, you sort of feel like you are stuck in the middle of the hearing world and the deaf world. That's how I felt. This board has shown me different. We can all get along and be apart of a community. In real life, that is hard to find.

As for your daughter. It is ok, you are not attached to her YET. Get to know her. She is still a baby, her personality hasn't developed all the way yet. How is your relationship with her mom? That can also play a big role in how you feel about your daughter. If you need to talk, I am here. :)
 
my dad s a loser who is selfish and my mom raised me thinking everything was ok. they just never let my hearing impairment be the reason i don't understand social cues and whatnot. ..............
 
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my dad s a loser who is selfish and my mom raised me thinking everything was ok. they just never let my hearing impairment be the reason i don't understand social cues and whatnot. ..............
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I am sorry, that sucks. Being hearing impaired isn't the only reason why people lack social skills. Sometimes our parents don't show us the right way to act. A good family life plays a big role in our adult lives.
 
i thought i had a good family big and all but still they act like i messed up i dunno ...... i am afraid my thought processers are not right.
 
i am somewhat. i'm just confused. i feel left out . seems like its hard to see ppl care about me the way i care about them. the golden rule. do unto others as you want others to do unto you
 
honestjohn22 said:
i am somewhat. i'm just confused. i feel left out . seems like its hard to see ppl care about me the way i care about them. the golden rule. do unto others as you want others to do unto you
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Have you ever thought about getting treatment for depression? Do you try to hard to impress others?
 
no and no . I'm not the type to try to impress ppl. however i do love to make ppl happy i dunno
 
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