Right!! I know exactly how your friend feels, I've been in that situation once before when I tried to be a member at one of the deaf clubs near my hometown but some ignored me after they found out I mainstreamed, grew up oral ,sign SEE..yet I'm no different than they are, afterall I've gone through frustrations and experiencing what it was like growing up deaf ,stuggling on trying to fit in with hearing kids that I went to school with, and finding jobs when people out there don't give us enough chances etc, or thinking we unable to do the job ...As for being part of the Deaf community I kept asking myself this question of why some Deaf people will reject others just because we are a little different than they are or how we were raised etc? I suppose that I wasn't Deaf enough for them...