why cant guy or girl move on to find another someone else?

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I am concerned that why did guy or girl move on to find another someone else after problem with someone else?

I notice most guys or girls decide to go back to same person whom like them before, they know person who like them, too. It time after not decide to move on to find another someone else. They believe someone else is right for them, not another. If he or she find another someone else, it will something bother them or notice someone else is not good for them. They had feelings with someone else before.
 
well it depend on people feeling wanna move on to find someone or still strong feeling for each other, go back with same person
 
Maybe the guy or girl are not compatible and no way of it working out. Time to move on.
 
i don't know about me i am VERY confused around me and don't know what to do move on or just wait i dunno
 
the strong love can make it hard to let go.. sometimes they break up for a while and go back.. and it works better.. sometimes it doesn't.. could get worse... LOVE conquers all!
 
I never believe in going back to the same person, because it never seems to successful, I've known from experience, I think moving on to someone new in their life spice things up more and make themselves feel more love. As I remembered going back to my ex after he cheated on me the entire time for the whole six years, I loved him so much back then I kept crawling back to him, but it never went right after that, so that's why I believe it never will work out again, someone new is always better because there's no bad memories. It'll be a brand new love with a brand new person. ;)
 
I guess I don't understand when someone ends the relationship and wanting him or her back. I don't understand when someone wants to hurt him/herself for losing their relationship.

I know a girl who was in 2 or 3 yrs relationship and her ex bf ended the relationship. And this girl was wearing summer pj short and a tank top and went out cold and lying on the snow......and she had a hypothermia. We asked her why she would do that and she told us that she couldn't live without her boyfriend. I thought it was too much. Then again he wanted her back. A few months later, he had to end it for good. This girl popped all the pills and nearly killed herself. But she lived.

I talked to her about it and killing ourselves won't solve anything. Yes, it doesnt hurt to ask her boyfriend why he had to ended it and to have a final closure if she is willing to move on. I told her that it wouldn't be fair if she loved him so much when he doesn't love her. That's not relationship. Finally she moved on and is now dating a lot of different guys. She's having a time of her life.
 
Why stop living your life for that person that may never be back... as you have a life too!! maybe it wasn't meant to be... just do your thing if it comes back to you then it may be meant to be.. Why waste your precious time and life wondering why he won't either commit or stay with you.. (think about this.. if he's like this, would you want to be miserable in it for life - no life's too precious) Personally it's a personal choice the reason people do go back for what?? they are accustomed to the comfort zone no matter what the person did to you.. I always believe, once a cheater always be a cheater. YOu can't force or change the person you want them to be, but to accept who they are. I would move on as I know it does get better after learning what you want out of a relationship, never settle for LESS!!!!.. I also believe if they do it right the first time, then this wouldn't have happened!!
 
RebelGirl said:
the strong love can make it hard to let go.. sometimes they break up for a while and go back.. and it works better.. sometimes it doesn't.. could get worse... LOVE conquers all!
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YEs I do believe this, if you really love the person, let them go as it'll do good to your heart, if they do come back it meant to be.. just have to give time..RIght.. Love Conquers all if you accept the person as who they are not for what you want them to be..
 
BAD advice to go back with same person! Best advice is to MOVE ON! Why do you have two eyes and one mouth? I heard this clever question from somewhere. Makes sense. If you say just to doubled looking forward ahead? That is the correct answer. You have one mouth to say something but two eyes to look forward. You do not have any eyes on the back of your head! That is why its important to go forward, not backward!

That is why it is not good to go back with same person. I had one who wanted to come back often back in the 80s. She lives in next state and she is deaf. We went to same pre-school but her parents split and she moved with her mother to another state then she found me through an old classmate of ours. Then we dated then one month later, she asked me to marry her and I told her no! I was 17 and was still in high school for one more year. I wanted to focus on school. Made the right move! Whew! Then she dumped me 2 months later because she was upset for my answer and could not wait to marry. Few months later, she apologized and wanted me back.. ok ok.. another chance. Then dumped..

To make it short, she tried one more time six years after I was 17. Do the math. I was going back to college and she wanted me back by marrying me! I told her NO!

Then she threated me by marrying someone else and she found him a week after I dumped her then got engaged 2 weeks later then married six months later just to hurt me.

2 years later, she wanted me back!! A married woman!!!! YIKES! I had my friend with me in person because she came in town to see me! But she kissed me!! I had to push her back! And ignored her. She was sad and gone back home to her estranged husband. She told me it was communication problem

Then 5 years later, she divorced him and wanted me back! I told her NO! Why? She hurt me first time by marrying wrong man and I told her to wait for me to finish college first then consider marriage.

So, my advice is NEVER go back to the same person. Maybe that person has OCD like my ex? She does have that problem and her mother knows that. In fact she did tell my mom about my ex.

Now I am happily married because we worked together to make that work. Sure we had 3 times "break up". It was more of misunderstanding at that point. First was fustration and needed to cool down but we were back quickly before it became cold. Second was miscommunication but we worked it out. It is not the same as what you described. Third was she was on vacation with her friends for a week and it was fustrated that I almost gave up but it was okay when she got back from her cruise with her friends.
 
the feelings is very strong, and makes big impact in the relationship between two people once one person d ecide to leave, it takes lot of times to move on, and start everything new - sometime person just don't move right away, or never in life-time.

it's all based on the "true feelings & the communication"

sometime its easier to move on - cuz maybe the individual found a true person to be with. on the other hand - it's easier to move on because the person probably didn't really have a whole feeling for that person.
 
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