Who get the custody of the kids?

[CrazyMomma]

Questions for members here who are divorced parent...

In court, how did it go? Agree with the custody agreements or not? If not, why is one parent doesn't agree with that?

Does your kids ever tell you or your ex-spouse that they want to live with Mom or Dad?

Any experiences??

 

[SherryCherish]

My boyfriend only get daughter on 2 weekends every months and, not whole summer. But, he get her when he is on vacation.

My bf was ex marriage before, and did go through court. But not work out with holidays with ex. Which the court say so. So my bf has to go back to the court to work out. I know stepdaughter wants to stay here since i have baby. But she is only 4 yr old. She can't make her decision til 12 yr old.


So i put "Others" cuz not whole summer

 

[Maria]

Mine was " joint custody " - just to be fair for the kids. I want the kids to see that their parents are sharin' them with their visitation rights. No fightings or arguments over kids. Now, they are grown up and have their own kids.

 

[SherryCherish]

i agree w cybered, i would do the same for my kids to be share.

 

[downing]

Mine is joint custody. It is being processed under court right now. Dad gets the boys every other weekend, 1 month in summer, every other holidays....no problem for me.

however dad has a problem w work schedule that will not let him to have weekends off to see his own kids even we live out of state so he is working on it by getting a new job. hope he finds a better job so he can spend quality time with his kids.

 

[Angel]

Mine is joint custody. It is being processed under court right now. Dad gets the boys every other weekend, 1 month in summer, every other holidays....no problem for me.

Same as Downing!


I voted " others ".... because shared/joint custody doesn't always means both parents see the children every other days...


I have joint custody, but the " dad " sees the children every other weekend, when I have them on weekdays and the other weekends....

 

[Cheri]

With Joint custody it is very depending on the each parent, history of neglect, or use of alcohol or drugs, there is no way Judge would give joint custody, the judge would give supervisor visitations to a parent that has a history while the child was living in a home with two parents.

I have full custody of both of my boys because of their father previous history which ordered by the judge.

 

[CrazyMomma]

I can notice that almost all children (90%) want to be with MOM and live with MOM and little percentage that kids want to live with DAD.

I have a friend, she is going thru divorce processing, and they are fighting who get the children. The mom want to get full custody of the kids, and the dad want to get the full custody of the kids too. I hope the mom get the kids.

I was a divorced child, and my bioloigical parents are like that, both of them want custody of me and my sister, and judge asked me who do me and my sister want to live with, so I told them, that I wanted to live with my mom. And I see my dad on every other weekend, but I stopped going see them when I was 13 years old. I have life of my own as teenagers, like Dance party, slumber party, going to mall on Friday night, and I wasn't more interesting going over to my dad.

I know every child need a mom more than dad. Am I right?

 

[CrazyMomma]

I have a GOOOOD question!!

Example:

You just had a baby, a 8 months old little girl... And you and the baby's father are getting divorce... You want to get the full custody of the baby, cause the baby is very little, and the father want to get full custody of the baby too. What would happen to the baby? Do you think the baby should go with the mother? Do you think the mother should get full custody of the baby?

 

[Liebling:-)))]

I vote "other"...

I´m with CyberRed... Its about kids who need their parents.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

I have a GOOOOD question!!

Example:

You just had a baby, a 8 months old little girl... And you and the baby's father are getting divorce... You want to get the full custody of the baby, cause the baby is very little, and the father want to get full custody of the baby too. What would happen to the baby? Do you think the baby should go with the mother? Do you think the mother should get full custody of the baby?

Yes, I can understand what you mean... but there´re also good fathers who can take care of baby, too...

 

[Gemtun]

My ex and I have 50-50 custody of girls. We alternate weeks with them. Every other Friday I get them and keep them for a week then on that Friday my ex gets the girls for a week. (this is why Im depressed this morning - it is Friday that the girls go back to their dad for a week )

When we first divorced, we agreed on this type of custody so we never went to court to fight over what we wanted. We wanted what is the BEST for the kids.

This also depends on each state. My state automatically go for joint custody unless a parent prove that the other parent is not fit to be a custody parent so then that parent gets full custody.

If my ex or I move out of this state, we automatically lose custody of our kids.

My fiance has full custody of 3 boys so you do see more and more single fathers having full custody.

I thank God everyday for having an ex who is understanding and willing to work things out with me for the sake of the kids. I see too many divorced parents fighting over kids, not because of sake of kids but because of their own egos.

 

[Maria]

I have a GOOOOD question!!

Example:

You just had a baby, a 8 months old little girl... And you and the baby's father are getting divorce... You want to get the full custody of the baby, cause the baby is very little, and the father want to get full custody of the baby too. What would happen to the baby? Do you think the baby should go with the mother? Do you think the mother should get full custody of the baby?

Well, I know it is hard on this one - but, the both parents have to be honest with each other that either one of them don't harm that child. Any age a child need the parents' love, full attention, support, and everythin' in despite of their " divorce ". A child need to see the parents' friendship for the sake of this child, so this child can grow up to live a better life with all good positive sides. Sharin' and communication are important. I don't want the child to learn " selfish " or " fightin' " from the parents. The parents are the children's teachers they watch.

 

[Gemtun]

I have a GOOOOD question!!

Example:

You just had a baby, a 8 months old little girl... And you and the baby's father are getting divorce... You want to get the full custody of the baby, cause the baby is very little, and the father want to get full custody of the baby too. What would happen to the baby? Do you think the baby should go with the mother? Do you think the mother should get full custody of the baby?

This is a hard question.

When we first got divorced, we did it every other 3 days - because our kids were only 3 and 4 that time. Then when girls got a bit older, we went to every other week type.

 

[Tousi]

This will be very brief and I hope I'm not misunderstood.

There are two kinds of custody: Joint and physical. Basically, as a starting point, the courts are VERY reluctant to take a child away from it's Mother (Childrens' Bill of Rights) unless there's, without a doubt, that the Mother is unable to rear the child.

Assuming the Mother, which happens MOST of the time, has physical custody of the child which means the child's "home base" is with the Mother, the father is allowed visitation rights as agreed by all parties during the divorce proceedings.

Again, assuming the father is involved, and the Mother has physical custody, joint legal custody is concerned with the child's well-being such as clothing, medical, dental issues, schooling, the amount of monetary support staying in the legal jurisdiction (not fleeing to another State), etc, etc.....this is just a brief, basic view of this whole divorce ugliness.

 

[Gemtun]

This will be very brief and I hope I'm not misunderstood.

There are two kinds of custody: Joint and physical. Basically, as a starting point, the courts are VERY reluctant to take a child away from it's Mother (Childrens' Bill of Rights) unless there's, without a doubt, that the Mother is unable to rear the child.

Assuming the Mother, which happens MOST of the time, has physical custody of the child which means the child's "home base" is with the Mother, the father is allowed visitation rights as agreed by all parties during the divorce proceedings.

Again, assuming the father is involved, and the Mother has physical custody, joint legal custody is concerned with the child's well-being such as clothing, medical, dental issues, schooling, the amount of monetary support staying in the legal jurisdiction (not fleeing to another State), etc, etc.....this is just a brief, basic view of this whole divorce ugliness.

You are correct but some states are starting to lean toward to split custody whether it is physical or joint - they do not automatically give it to mother but make it split custody unless a parent is proved to be unfit. This is is happening here in this state. Some states automatically give it to mothers unless mothers are unfit but fathers are gaining more and more rights these days.

 

[Tousi]

You are correct but some states are starting to lean toward to split custody whether it is physical or joint - they do not automatically give it to mother but make it split custody unless a parent is proved to be unfit. This is is happening here in this state. Some states automatically give it to mothers unless mothers are unfit but fathers are gaining more and more rights these days.

I took a bunch of law classes about 15 years ago so maybe I now need to come out of my cocoon and get with the times!!

 

[DeafSCUBA98]

I know every child need a mom more than dad. Am I right?

i had to strongly disagree with this...

every child needs a mom and a dad equility. 50-50.

myself i'm full time father. there's reasons why..

i'm also noticing more and more single fathers are now around.. things is been changing right now. court is giving both men and women equility.

the majority is women wins the custody. but the court will mainly award father custody if the women is unfit mother, not responsible, having some sort of mental illness, etc.. there's many reason why court award the father full custody.

this day.. i've notice pretty much single mothers who doesn't take good care of their kids..


i don't know if this is true... i heard that court awards mother or father full custody because is a church going person, makes enough money to support the kid, works, and have some college education. this is what i heard around the corner.. that court give more award to those people.

 

[Angel]

Every custody cases are different, it's never the same, some people can easy sit here and say it's best that the child have both parents in their lives when no one knows what going on in their relationship or during the divorce process or what the reason behind it, every situation is different, protecting your children is #1 priority....

 

[Tousi]

i had to strongly disagree with this...

every child needs a mom and a dad equility. 50-50.

myself i'm full time father. there's reasons why..

i'm also noticing more and more single fathers are now around.. things is been changing right now. court is giving both men and women equility.

the majority is women wins the custody. but the court will mainly award father custody if the women is unfit mother, not responsible, having some sort of mental illness, etc.. there's many reason why court award the father full custody.

this day.. i've notice pretty much single mothers who doesn't take good care of their kids..


i don't know if this is true... i heard that court awards mother or father full custody because is a church going person, makes enough money to support the kid, works, and have some college education. this is what i heard around the corner.. that court give more award to those people.

Deafscuba, yeah I agree about the 50-50 or roughly that BUT they are getting divorced so that "equity" goes out the window, right?