what if your kids dont like ur bf/Gf? what will you do?

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I always wonderin about that topic.. what will yall doif ur kids dont like the bf or gf ya dating? knowsome kids can be right or wrong
 
I was dating my husband that he had 3 children but now his three kids are already full teenagers. At first they didn't like me because they were upset that their dad and mom were getting a divorce. I never made them to like me. I was more friend to them and show them that I was nice person. They learned to get know me. We are getting great along expect my stepson have lot of problem himself.

I didnt like my stepdad at first when i met him that time my mom was dating him. I dislike him because my real dad told me untruth and bad thing about my stepdad. My real dad was angry that my mom left him and went with my stepdad. I realized that my dad was not honest with me but I understand that he was jealous and hurt. My stepdad was more friend to me and I learned to get know him. I think that my stepdad is the best father in the world! I wished that he would adopt me. My real dad was bad that I had. I still love my real dad no matter what. I always love my stepdad!
 
That why I dont go after women who already have kids BUT... if it does happen, I would try to hang out with kids as much i can - taking them out to fun places and showering them with $$$$$$.

Kids break down when you give them lots of stuffs AND you give up your time to be with them.
 
what if the lady have alot of hearts and u fell in love the way she looks and being caring and can be a devoted person? would u not want to get to know her? ha..

i had experience of being with my ex bf's kids.. they didnt like me at first.. but finally got to know each other and all that.. but the lil boy still dont like me.. oh well.. he want to be only him and his daddy ..thats it.. no one else .. that was hard.. sigh..
 
if i had a bf with kids i would like to get along with them and treat them like my own they don't have to get along with me but can show that i love and treat their dad no matter what
 
Casperman said:
$$$ sounds like ya tryin bribing kids....irather go for other way..
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Is that direct to me? I dont mean to lavish kids with many stuffs. What I mean is to buy something that would make kids happy. If money is non-factor, then I suggest to take kids out to park and play their favorite sports. If kids dont like sports, then find what their favorite hobby is and spend time with them.

Good luck.
 
Trust me, the problem does not go away with ADULT CHILDREN. In fact it might be worse. Adults play adult head-games. In the long run, if you possibly can, remain with the person you had your children with. If I had it to do all over again, that is what I would do. Everyone grows up eventually.
 
Something like that takes a lot of time & patients. The new bf/gf gotta know when they date someone that has kids. It a packaged deal. They have to accept them 1st before anything. It'll take time but sooner or later the kids will accept that person also. You don't want to buy their love you just gotta show them you care for their mom/dad. Its hard no matter what when kids see their parents move on with someone other then their mom/dad but eventually they will learn, understand, & accept it
 
2 of my girlfriend s kids are boys they love me they re very determined to sign they re improving on tht area very quicky than i expected what an determination i love them lik ethey re my own
 
JLFWildKat said:
Something like that takes a lot of time & patients. The new bf/gf gotta know when they date someone that has kids. It a packaged deal. They have to accept them 1st before anything. It'll take time but sooner or later the kids will accept that person also. You don't want to buy their love you just gotta show them you care for their mom/dad. Its hard no matter what when kids see their parents move on with someone other then their mom/dad but eventually they will learn, understand, & accept it
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I agree with Jeremy 100 percent, It does take a lot of patient if you have it. When I first met my step-mother I did not even like her, It took me a while to get to know her, I thought she was going to be another person like my mother who didn't accept my deafness.

When someone new comes in your life, that person is a stranger to the children. And the children would feel the tension. You could always sit down and have a conversation with your children, encourage the children to give the person who's now dating their father or mother a chance, and let them know that this person is not a replacement of their mother or father, only that this person is just an extra person who would love and care for them just like their parents would. :)
 
my mother is still dating as a result of a ending marriage.
and me as her kid teenager w/e. don't like it much. but
i like to see my mother happy. just make sure when ur dating
someone that they take the time to get to know ur kids..
we think its weird but it means the world to us and don't go
right ahead and get marrried if we hate each others guts.
try and solve things out first. then we'll understand and stand
by with your new hubby and descsion right by ur side:D
 
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