What does it take to make a relationship or marriage work?

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I just learned from my mom today that some family members' girlfriends/ fiancee are leaving them. I asked my mom why and she said that those two guys (I wont say who for privacy reasons) dont communicate, change their plans without communicating, or dont meet their girlfriends/fiancee's needs.

I told my mom that I think people who put themselves first, dont take the responsibility for their significant other as far as communication or making plans, and not able to meet other people's emotional needs SHOULD not be in a relationship or marriage. If u cant respect the other person's needs or willing to take the responsibility for communicating with the other person, then remain single. Right?
 
Honesty and communication are the two biggest requirements. If you think about this, it covers what is happening to your family member's relationships. They were not honest with themselves or their partners, and failed to communicate this. Too many times people are in a rush to find a mate without thinking of the consequences of that. It takes more than attraction, lust, money to make a relationship. Many people would be better off staying players. Unfortunately, players often conceal their real intentions to gain sexual favors.
 
What does it take to make a relationship or marriage work? By Shel90

Communication As It IS!!!

H O W

H- Honesty

O-Open-Mind

W- Willing
 
=p Even if you're honest, open minded and all that. Relationships still fail. I've had one of my ex's leave me for her old ex because he wanted her back. 2 months later he got tired of her again and dumped her but that was that for me. I'm done with her =/ not even friends either. Gotta be kidding. I personally am getting sick of relationships and such, it's been the bane of my existence.
 
My mom and I just chatted again. I asked her about what she thinks of relationships. She said us young people dont know how to make relationships work and that we dont know how to work the tough times out. Do u agree? Is there too much selfishness in us than in past generations?
 
communcation, listening on other side, even u don't like it. be patience and find to make a agreement
 
Major the key: Open communication, Trust, Love, Caring, relationship on runs better build excellence.
 
Compromise is also a big part of relationships. you have to find a balance to keep both people happy.:deal:

Honesty, Love, and Trust do play a big part of it, so does communication. And Sadly, good sex is a good part of it too :giggle:
 
i wish that he will communicate with me about his feelings and mine too that i wanna to work with rather not wanna to end the relationship fast blah
 
Relationships live on stronger, if there's communication with each other about anything and everything, when you trust each other on all level possible, support each others, be there for each others, and be honest with each others and never keep things from each others, spend times together as possible, but, if one works, keep each others in heart. If there's any disagreement don't fight (which leads to violent abuse and yelling), just talk it out, apologize, forgive and make up with each others, understanding each others, and most of all show so much love affections like holding, kissing, hugging, cuddling etc, and saying "I love you" to each others, just like my boyfriend and I do, that's why our love is much stronger than ever! ;)
 
Yes I'm agree with all of your posts.

Marriage is a big step in life, not fairy-tales like what everyone thought. Some people thought they married for make baby which it's not. It's about love, respect and understand between 2 people.

Its about loving relationship and respect between two people who work themselves - support each other with household, budget financial, lover, nurse, focus to understand each other.
 
shel90 said:
My mom and I just chatted again. I asked her about what she thinks of relationships. She said us young people dont know how to make relationships work and that we dont know how to work the tough times out. Do u agree? Is there too much selfishness in us than in past generations?
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Remember, there's a high rate of divorce nowdays than in past generations. Your mom could be right at some point. :)
 
shel90 said:
My mom and I just chatted again. I asked her about what she thinks of relationships. She said us young people dont know how to make relationships work and that we dont know how to work the tough times out. Do u agree? Is there too much selfishness in us than in past generations?
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No I do not agree with ur mom, in my generation and today's younger generation are no different.
 
mecooncat said:
Honesty and communication is the best key and don't forget about sex.
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+1

Sex is important as you want to have good one with your partner otherwise one of you would be tempted to move to greener pastures.

I like the concept of H.O.W and yes of course communication is the key to have prolong realtionship.
 
this is HOW I KNEW my s.o. was the ONE: and did this in order when i was following my heart... and NOT SEE any RED FLAGS!

1. COMMUNICATION - that's how we "hit right off of the bat!" :D- and also we always communicate our feelings instead of blowing things out of proportion or off steam let alone getting silent treatment...

2. TRUST - he always told me what was happening EVERY MINUTE- i am not kidding! unlike most men especially with LD- he even told me he was going to the john! :giggle:

3. HONESTY- he never drools or looks at other women- and that's when I KNEW! :D.... and also we were always open and honest with each other right from the start and we still are! :D

4. COMPROMISE- we always have a balance.. there is no way people can be 100 percent compatible... we are about 90%... i will give you a perfect example: i love watching grey's anatomy and supernanny... he will watch it with me :) he loves all CSIs shows... i will watch them with him... the list goes on! :D

5. SEX- of course it is all part of the WHOLE PACKAGE! :naughty: :giggle:

TOTAL: LOVE!!! :hug:
 
That's great FeistyChick! :thumb:


How does it work? It takes unconditional love and commitment and not change a person. The key to make this work are; communication, honesty and trust.
 
Catmandu said:
That's great FeistyChick! :thumb:


How does it work? It takes unconditional love and commitment and not change a person. The key to make this work are; communication, honesty and trust.
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that's right! i forgot to add that! i knew i forgot something! :squint:

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE AND COMMITMENT! :D
 
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