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I have been single for about 2 months now and have hardly gone out. I know i should go out and see my friends but i dont feel up to it. And my ex-boyfriends hangs aorund with my friends and sees them a lot more than i do even though i introduce him to them. I am just really fed up and need some online friends
 
Deafteen90 said:
I have been single for about 2 months now and have hardly gone out. I know i should go out and see my friends but i dont feel up to it. And my ex-boyfriends hangs aorund with my friends and sees them a lot more than i do even though i introduce him to them. I am just really fed up and need some online friends
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Why don't you do something productive such as going to places where you know your ex boyfriend does not go to? You can also make new friends too or better yet, reconnect with some of your old friends that you haven't seen for years.

What else do you like to do? Are there any hobbies or things that you find yourself enjoyably to do? Perhaps that's a thought for you to do something to keep yourself occupied.
 
All the friends i have us the people who my ex boyfriend hangs around with. all my friends are deaf. the friends i have from college are hearing and sometimes it is hard to keep up with what they are talking about. they dont tell me what they are talking about. my hobbies are spending a lot of time online and i dont go out much
 
Deafteen90 said:
All the friends i have us the people who my ex boyfriend hangs around with. all my friends are deaf. the friends i have from college are hearing and sometimes it is hard to keep up with what they are talking about. they dont tell me what they are talking about. my hobbies are spending a lot of time online and i dont go out much
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Hi,

idea: why don't you contact your deaf friends and ask them to go for coffee? or plan an event and invite who you want to be there?

break-up's are always hard but through time, things get better.

keep your chin up and stay strong!

missy
 
Deafteen90 said:
All the friends i have us the people who my ex boyfriend hangs around with. all my friends are deaf. the friends i have from college are hearing and sometimes it is hard to keep up with what they are talking about. they dont tell me what they are talking about. my hobbies are spending a lot of time online and i dont go out much
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If your friends hang out with your ex bf more than you, then I guess they arent true friends.
 
Just because they are also your ex's friends also does not mean you have to befriend your friends.

I'm not sure of you circumstances but if they are still your friend. Invite them to your place leaving the discussion of your ex out.
Have fun.

Hope I don't offend you, but you do seem resentful that "your" friends are still friends with your ex.
 
it just my friends ask him to go out to places with them and they hardly ask me. im the one who have to ask them if they want to meet up with them. But i dont think they are my true friends as they dont really speak to them when im wit hthem and it really frustrates me cos they are the only friends iv got
 
Then find new friends who also don't go out much...go to each other's houses to eat dinner and watch a movie or something. Online friends are awesome...I have a lot of online friends, but real life friends are really important for support, socialization, and all that.
 
Deafteen90 said:
it just my friends ask him to go out to places with them and they hardly ask me. im the one who have to ask them if they want to meet up with them. But i dont think they are my true friends as they dont really speak to them when im wit hthem and it really frustrates me cos they are the only friends iv got
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Be assertive! Talk to your friends. Tell them you are still their friend. They may be intimidated and feel they have to choose who to be friends with. Let your friends know that you still want to be their friend regardless of your ex.

If that is too much to ask of them then it will be their loss.
 
I'm with Babyblue, take her advice and see what happens. ;)
 
Deafteen90 said:
I have been single for about 2 months now and have hardly gone out. I know i should go out and see my friends but i dont feel up to it. And my ex-boyfriends hangs aorund with my friends and sees them a lot more than i do even though i introduce him to them. I am just really fed up and need some online friends
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I have been single for 6 months now and I don't get out at all!! I go to church, to the store, or wherever - it sucks but you need to get out and interact with others. Trust me I feel the same way you do. But I just wanna hang with my family or someone I feel safe with. I am more than HAPPY to be your online friend :D
 
kymberly79 said:
I have been single for 6 months now and I don't get out at all!! I go to church, to the store, or wherever - it sucks but you need to get out and interact with others. Trust me I feel the same way you do. But I just wanna hang with my family or someone I feel safe with. I am more than HAPPY to be your online friend :D
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I do only go out with my family as i feel safe with them and i know they will talk to me and involve me with them. my friends rarely talk to me when im out with them i have to initiate the conservation and im bad enough at doing that. i hate talking to people, i feel embarrassed and really indecisive and if i talk to people or my family i tend to ask them questions repeatedly.

sighs....


email me and ill email you back?
 
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