I posted this at another thread but I think it wasn't the right one untill I checked this section so I am posting it here as well.
In most cases YES, the divorce main cause is the current health status of the child, however from my experience ( My parents divorced when I was 2 years old and I was born Deaf), the real cause is not the child but how a parent is willing to support the kid in the future. Let's face it, a parent love their children, and the mother love to their child can be described as unconditional love, it hurts when a parent get the new of their child deafness but let me tell you something, does it hurts more knowing that you did not supported your child when you could? Is never too late and to those parents of Deaf children, your child is smart and healthy, he lack hearing but he does not lack knowlogde, he does not have a learning disorder, he does not have a mental issue, he is in fact normal. Communication is the first step to keep your spouse alert about the situation, and counling does help in some cases but we are not dealing with adult feelings, we are dealing with a CHILD. Do not make your child the EXCUSE of your divorce, he did not have the blame nor the fault, the problem is, we do not see the child and their achievements in the future, we see them as a child and never look up to what that chidl is CAPABLE to do. To all divorced parents that decide tosupport their child, you are a blessing, no Deaf child will ever be succesfull without family and friends support.
In most cases YES, the divorce main cause is the current health status of the child, however from my experience ( My parents divorced when I was 2 years old and I was born Deaf), the real cause is not the child but how a parent is willing to support the kid in the future. Let's face it, a parent love their children, and the mother love to their child can be described as unconditional love, it hurts when a parent get the new of their child deafness but let me tell you something, does it hurts more knowing that you did not supported your child when you could? Is never too late and to those parents of Deaf children, your child is smart and healthy, he lack hearing but he does not lack knowlogde, he does not have a learning disorder, he does not have a mental issue, he is in fact normal. Communication is the first step to keep your spouse alert about the situation, and counling does help in some cases but we are not dealing with adult feelings, we are dealing with a CHILD. Do not make your child the EXCUSE of your divorce, he did not have the blame nor the fault, the problem is, we do not see the child and their achievements in the future, we see them as a child and never look up to what that chidl is CAPABLE to do. To all divorced parents that decide tosupport their child, you are a blessing, no Deaf child will ever be succesfull without family and friends support.
