The true definition of a word 'dating'

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Everytime when you see two persons holding their hands together, or kissing, or any kind of physical activity together....why do people always say "they're dating" and/or asking them "how long have you guys been dating?" Something like that but it's really wrong use of a word dating, unless if they're just doing it for fun, out of love (not to mention that's really fuckin' selfish.)

Dictionary had never said dating has to be involved in phyiscal contact especially sexual intercourse. Whoever says relationship/courtship is the same as dating term, they're actually fucked up wrong! I see it pretty clearly is that they're abusing the true meaning of a word dating nowadays.

Dictionary.com

See # 7, 8, 14, and 18

Does these say anything that is being involved in between the lines, "french-kissing", or physical contact", or "getting laid"??
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What they're doing a phyiscal contact that is more than just holding hands is called relationship or better word that almost no one used to call nowadays: courting/courtship. Don't confuse relationship with dating. They're seperate definition but most of the people nowadays think both are alike. That's fucked up. I mean, I felt so offended when some people or friends asked me, "Oh, is that your date?" when they looked at my boyfriend and I together especially we kissed or hugged or whatever like that...because it seems that made them think we were just doing it for fun (ahems, you know, like friends with benefits.) Boy, got me really pissed off...I was telling them like "Excuse me? That's not nice! We're not dating! What's wrong with you? We're not using each other." Big :ugh: I really wanted to punch their face.
Get my drift?
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it is socially expected that two people holding hands are dating. I have a coworker who is engaged to her fiancee and has been with him for 2 years. They have never held hands nor ever kissed. Now, that's something!!!
 
shel90 said:
it is socially expected that two people holding hands are dating. I have a coworker who is engaged to her fiancee and has been with him for 2 years. They have never held hands nor ever kissed. Now, that's something!!!
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A couple can be "friends" and just hanging out together, both not attached to another.....and hold hands. I don't see anything wrong with that. What I don't like to see is couples openly displaying more than affection in public....such as extreme kissing and touching when other people are around...."get a room, will ya?"....
 
Shel90, reply to your quote,

That's wonderful! What they're doing is right. That is pretty much courting thing. Whether it or not they're doing on purpose relating to God's will, if this has nothing to do with it, then it's still good thing no matter what.
Your co-worker and her fiance are closely in the same shoes with my parents' experience.
 
If you are going out on a date with someone, you're dating. but if I'm in a relationship with someone, I call him my boyfriend
 
Lighthouse,

Hmm, yeah something lie that but I'm against "date" thing. Thank goodness I have never dated anyone in my life. Neither did my sweetie. Why should others and I waste our time just getting to know one another and one day we stopped hanging out? That's not kind of lasting loving friendship with respect.
 
Douglas said:
Lighthouse,

Hmm, yeah something like that but I'm against "date" thing. Thank goodness I have never dated anyone in my life. Neither did my sweetie. Why should others and I waste our time just getting to know one another and one day we stopped hanging out? That's not kind of lasting loving friendship with respect.
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The only alternative is to get married immediately without getting to know each other. I don't think you can successfully marry without getting to know the other person first.

Not if you want it to last.
 
Lighthouse and Bottesini,

Whoaaaa! Omg, have you lost your common sense? You jumped to the wrong conclusion. What, are you telling me that you don't know how to become friends with a guy for a while before getting into the committed relationship?
By the way. I'm a "she". Don't get big silly wrong idea...my boyfriend and I had been friends for 2 years before pledging relationship. We have been together for almost 5 years now. Geez.
 
Douglas said:
Lighthouse and Bottesini,

Whoaaaa! Omg, have you lost your common sense? You jumped to the wrong conclusion. What, are you telling me that you don't know how to become friends with a guy for a while before getting into the committed relationship?
By the way. I'm a "she". Don't get big silly wrong idea...my boyfriend and I had been friends for 2 years before pledging relationship. We have been together for almost 5 years now. Geez.
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I think I still have all I was born with. :hmm:

I think I hope you and your boyfriend are really on the same page if you do get married.
 
Even with friends, we go out and do stuffs. We got to meet sometimes in order to be friends.
 
I know some people do courting (or whatever the name) where they do stuffs together around the girl's parents. If that what you do, I can see how you get to know the person.

oh btw, you should make sure your boyfriend is sexually attracted to you (a normal feeling between two people rather you are dating or not) . And not the controlling abusive type. You'll never know what type he is and your marriage will probably will not work out.
 
Douglas said:
Shel90, reply to your quote,

That's wonderful! What they're doing is right. That is pretty much courting thing. Whether it or not they're doing on purpose relating to God's will, if this has nothing to do with it, then it's still good thing no matter what.
Your co-worker and her fiance are closely in the same shoes with my parents' experience.
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They are very very religous. I have a lot of respect for her because she doesnt preach her religion on other people nor judge others for being different. At first, I looked at her as weird for not ever holding hands nor kissing her fiancee in the 2 or 3 years they have been together but as I got to know her, I am no longer shocked and really, she and her fiancee are some of the sweetest people and I believe that they will have a successful marriage. It is hard to explain.
 
Wow, when hubby and I first met each other, I was so all over him!

I couldn't wait for us to get to the hotel room, poor hubby! Just entered Canada and I was all over him!

Now if a couple is set to be married and has dated two years, not held hands or kissed, oh boy! Who knows if they learn that he/she has sexual preferences that he/she may not even like!
 
Mrs Bucket said:
Wow, when hubby and I first met each other, I was so all over him!

I couldn't wait for us to get to the hotel room, poor hubby! Just entered Canada and I was all over him!

Now if a couple is set to be married and has dated two years, not held hands or kissed, oh boy! Who knows if they learn that he/she has sexual preferences that he/she may not even like!
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:eek3: I wonder if that was something that Mrs B was all eager to let loose on her poor hubby back then?? LOL oh man... :giggle:
 
Douglas, I'm not understanding all what you have said and/or maybe I missed the crux of your explanation so tell me, please, when do you use the word, "dating"?
 
shel90 said:
They are very very religous. I have a lot of respect for her because she doesnt preach her religion on other people nor judge others for being different. At first, I looked at her as weird for not ever holding hands nor kissing her fiancee in the 2 or 3 years they have been together but as I got to know her, I am no longer shocked and really, she and her fiancee are some of the sweetest people and I believe that they will have a successful marriage. It is hard to explain.
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Likes that a lot. :D
 
Tousi said:
Douglas, I'm not understanding all what you have said and/or maybe I missed the crux of your explanation so tell me, please, when do you use the word, "dating"?
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It looks to me that she is saying that she does not understand why the word 'date' or 'dating' is used for those who are in a sexual relationship. A Date is referred to an arrangement or a person whom has an appointment or occasion with another, and Dating is referred to to make a date with; go out on dates with.

Date: I have a date with my brothers best friend, we are going to Don Jose'.

Dating: I have been dating my brothers best friend for a few weeks.

In the past centuries, 'courtship' or 'courting' was refered to Men who called upon the women, with intent to marry, but must get to know her, and is most often chaperoned by the woman's immediate family.

Nowadays, it is rare that couples who are together abstain from sex or kissing or holding hands. (Like shel90's friend. :) )
 
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