...and, some pay dearly.
Oral skills are good to have, but, a person shouldn't have oral only forced on them; especially a child.
I think, we the hearing, needs to honor the identity of the deaf person. Instead of forcing them to meet our ideal, we should be meeting theirs.
I will also again beat the drum for a cooperation between the hearing and deaf. Only when the two can come together and cooperate will we see change and will things be better.