Ok, if you feel that she wasnt attacking you, then why dont you address it with her in PM land? That part is something I wont get involved with as I wasnt a part of it.
I am speaking to GrendalQ.
If you felt like she was attacking you, maybe explain it to her how you felt...maybe she felt she wasnt. Maybe it is a differing of opinions. I missed that part so I cant form an opinion about it.