I had been through with 2 different step-dads and one step-mom.
Both step-dads accepted my mom’s children with no complication. The one problem is my mom; siblings and I were being form of abuses from one of 2 step-dads.
My siblings and I had been through hell with step-mom for 7 fucking years before he married her. I would say she is a first class bitch.
(Excuse me for saying this)
The women come and went in my Dad’s life until he met Janice whom he wants to spent his rest of life with. Janice has a daughter during previous marriage. My siblings and I are happy for him and accept her & her daughter. Sadly Janice doesn’t accept us but want Dad to consider her family.
I made 8 of thousands examples about her here.
1. My siblings & I didn’t know that Janice organized to surprise my Dad on his 50th birthday in the restaurant and invited their relatives/friends including her daughter & fiancée until on next day. (I want to congrats Dad on his birthday but Janice told me that she wants to be alone with him & then I can see him on next day). My Dad slipped out to me & my fiancé (happen is my husband) on our visit on next day when he was sort of “drunk” that he had a great time at party etc yesterday… I was like
& look back to Janice then back to him & then asked him simple: Why didn’t he invite his own children? Dad look back to Janice & hope something from her to say back to me. I look back to Janice & told her that she should be honest with me in first place about party instead of made an excuse for want to alone with him. Dad said that he can’t achieve to have more people to celebrate his birthday… I laughed bitter & told him that he should reduce his invitation to friends for us. Janice jumped and said that it’s none of my business because it’s her money she spent whatever she like & can choose whatever she likes to surprise him. I said nothing and then look back to Dad & told him that my siblings are right about her… I know now that she is 2 faced person. Dad asked to not make more problems when I see my siblings. I told him in polite way that it’s my duty to inform my sibling because they have the right to know the truth. They deserve the truth from me because they warned me about Janice in first place & then left. Of course my siblings are speechless. They told me that they called to congrats Dad on his birthday. They talked on the phone & told them that he want to be alone with her & promised to see them next week.
2. I was surprised and overjoyed when Janice & my Dad offered their help on my wedding plan, move my furniture to Germany etc. (I thought they made good for me after my forgive toward them for not invite me to attend Dad's 50th birthday party in previous months). I was realized that I made a big mistake for let them to help my wedding plan. We fought over my wedding plan because I felt that it’s their wedding, not mine. They got me to invite Janice’s relatives & friends and tell me what to do and tell us to not let children to attend our wedding. My siblings are on my side and fought with them. Terrible one… I wish I should not take their offer to help me with wedding plan in first place after saw how Dad let Janice play the boss on my wedding plans. I wish something different but I’m too softie… We were upset on our wedding day after saw few children of their friends are on our wedding day because they told me in first place to not bring children. We said nothing. We have presents for Janice & Dad to thank her for wedding organization before leave for our week honeymoon in Paris. Few days after we came home from Paris and found Dad & Janice’s odd impression. Dad told me off that I should give Janice gold or silver necklace, bracelet or ear-piercing as “thank you” gift instead of flowers, bottle of champagne and wood plate which it’s not right. I was like Huh? She expect too much from me. I told him that what I did for her is not good enough for her. She did took my nice compliments - what she want more then? We fought again over that on one day before we left England for live in Germany for good. I can’t bear it anymore over Janice’s bitch so I wrote a final letter to my Dad telling him to not bother to take us to Airport to say final goodbye. I last saw him was September 1985.
3. One year later after our wedding, my siblings & I were uninvited to attend Dad’s & Janice’s wedding. We don’t understand why Dad still married her when he knows that she don’t like us. :roll:
4. My one year younger sister wrote a letter telling me everything what happened to Janice… Of course I laughed because Janice deserve badly from my sister
(excuse me for my bitch). I can image my sibling’s suffer is worst than me because they live in England. My Aunt from Tampa, Florida came to visit England. My siblings were like
when our Aunt told them before she left… “See you on Friday at restaurant”. My siblings knew straight way its Janice’s organization again & call Dad to make sure about Restaurant on Friday. My sister played on Dad and asked him “I can’t remember which restaurant we want to celebrate for Aunt”. Dad gave her which restaurant. She knew she is right that Janice organized the farewell party for Aunt before she left for America. My siblings are curious which people Janice invited to. They spied and saw a lot of people around the restaurant including relatives. My siblings went to greet the people to shock Janice and make themselves that “I know we were uninvited here but we only want to say hi to you all & then have great time” & then left. It’s my sibling’s renevage plan to make Janice & Dad embarrassment in the public… Ooohhh…
Next day my sister went Janice & Dad’s place to damage their furniture with weapon & then hit Janice’s teeth. It damage Janice’s 2 front teeth. Janice took my sister to court for teeth & furniture damage. (I know my sister does is too far – I told her in the letter to ignore them and move on….)
5. We stayed at my sister & family for summer vacation in 1990. I paid a surprise visit to Dad for a first time after 5 years no see. All what my hubby & I received from Dad is “What do you want here for”? Instead of delight to see me. I know Janice is behind the door. I answered that I want to say goodbye before we leave for go back to Germany tomorrow. Dad said “Oh I see”… but Janice jumped & accused me for troublemaker… it got my hubby mad & told her to leave me alone because it’s Dad, I want to see – not her. I can see how pathetic my Dad is. Janice whined about her teeth blah blah blah… We listened & told her that she should accept Dad’s children. She accused me again for take my sibling’s sides against her. :roll: We stayed there for 15 minutes & then told my hubby to leave them alone & then left.
6. I got horrible letter from Janice few weeks after left England and got Dad to sign… I know Janice’s handwriting and Dad’s signature. I returned their letter back to them saying that we do not need that nonsense letter.
7. My sister was like huh when she learned that we came to visit to England again in 1992 because she thought its Janice, we came to visit. I made her clear that it’s 175th anniversary festival at school, I visit. My sister was like huh again & then asked me again either I know what happened to Janice. I said No, why should I? She told me that Janice lies dying – lung cancer. All what I said is: “so?” Why should I do for her then? We changed the subject quickly because we are not interested about her. Few months later in July 1992 I got a letter from her saying that Janice is died. I asked her to pass my sympathy message to Dad for us. One year later I got a letter from Dad asking either I know or not that his wife is died and wait to get something from me. I answered him in polite way saying that I know about Janice’s death and gave sympathy message to my sister for him but he should write to me directly instead of ask someone to do for his behalf. No reply from him until 1999.
8. Dad & I made peace in 1999 after 14 years no speak. My family & I visited to see him and my siblings in summer 2000. My Dad saw my 2 sons for first time. We have a lot to catch after long waste years… I look at him and know he is a pathetic but I accept what he is. He’s much better without Janice. He told me that he never want to marry again. Dad want to tell me the story how Janice suffered her incurable illness. I told him polite to not bring her name up because I don’t want to know. He respects my wish. No name mention about her during 2 whole weeks… Phew…
The medical invest that terms. Alot of Deaf people are pissed off with hearing people. They label us hearing impaired as ears are closed or broke. Jeeze !!
cuz i said it out a loud on the driveway but ofc i was going to be junior in HS and everyone heard it. and yes i got hit by step dad that eveing. as few months later the marriage end and it was terrbile he hurt my mom and us.. and after what i saw my mind was gone and hurt him pretty bad. then their marriage ended.
That's exactly my mom and Franks all-time favorite word too. Oh Good Grief! :roll: