Doug, please go to a counselor whether she goes or not, even if you don't want to stay married. A therapist can find out what is the problem, and help you cope with having had an unfaithful wife and getting separated/divorced. It's sad, but in the end remember to live your life for you from now on, and you know how the revenge is to.. live well. You'll find another woman who will be able to stay faithful and loving, ok? Take care of yourself!
