Spanking may lead to sexual problems

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Children whose parents spank them or otherwise inflict physical punishment may be more likely to have sexual problems later, according to research to be presented Thursday to the American Psychological Association.
The analysis of four studies by Murray Straus, co-director of the Family Research Laboratory at the University of New Hampshire-Durham, suggests that children whose parents spanked, slapped, hit or threw objects at them may have a greater chance of physically or verbally coercing a sexual partner, engaging in risky sexual behavior or engaging in masochistic sex, including sexual arousal by spanking.

"It increases the chances of sexual problems," though "it's not a one-to-one causation," Straus says.

Elizabeth Gershoff, an assistant professor of social work at the University of Michigan-Ann Arbor, who reviewed 80 years of spanking research in 2002 in the APA's Psychological Bulletin, says Straus' work appears to be the first to link spanking with sexual problems.

Gershoff says that though many children have been spanked (85% in one 2007 survey), problems may depend on how they process the spanking.

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"They may internalize that to mean that in loving relationships sometimes there's pain or physical aggression," she says. Another possible lesson is that "whoever is stronger and has more power can overpower the other person and use physical aggression to control the other person's behavior."

But linking sexual problems with spanking is a "big leap," says human-sexuality researcher John DeLamater of the University of Wisconsin. "It's probably one of many elements that might contribute to sex problems or risky sex, but it's a long leap."

Most children who are spanked escape from long-term harm, says Straus, 81, a sociology professor who says he occasionally spanked his own children but later became a staunch critic of spanking. His work on violence in families is regarded as landmark research.

He is scheduled to present the studies today at the psychological association's Summit on Violence and Abuse in Relationships in Bethesda, Md. Three are yet unpublished; one has been submitted to a journal. He plans to include two in a book this year. The fourth was included in a 1994 book.

The two most recent studies examine sexual coercion and risky practices among 14,252 college students between 2001 and 2006. The third study, of 440 high school students from New Hampshire, examined risky sex, such as premarital sex without a condom. The fourth study, of 207 students from the Northeast, focused on masochistic sex.

In each case, Straus found that those who had experienced corporal punishment had increased probability of coercing sex, risky sex or masochistic sex.

The literature on effectiveness of spanking to correct behavior is still "very mixed," says Robert Larzelere of Oklahoma State University, who has studied parents' disciplinary methods.

"Like any discipline tactic, it depends on how it's used," he says.
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Good thing that we banned spanking :lol:
 


It´s not just sexual problem but emotional and behavioral problems as well.

Corporal punishment banned in many European countries at long time ago.
 
There's this site called Christian Domestic Disclipne. It's basicly advocating BDSM (bondage and Sadiomachism) for JESUS!
Since a lot of conservative Christians advocate spanking (and some of what they consider spanking CAN be considered child abuse.....and not in a "oh ALL spanking is child abuse" way) this makes so much sense. I also know off the top of my head that the more conseravtive a person is, the more likely they are into bizare sexuality.
 
I've been spanked before, and nothing happened to me, I grew up just fine, I spanks my kids whatever it is needed to, not quite often.

Parents have the right to disciple their kids the way they see fits, what may work for this one child may not work for another child.

I don't think spanking is any form of abuse, or the future sexual problems either. That's just my opinion. :)
 
Cheri said:
I've been spanked before, and nothing happened to me, I grew up just fine, I spanks my kids whatever it is needed to, not quite often.

Parents have the right to disciple their kids the way they see fits, what may work for this one child may not work for another child.

I don't think spanking is any form of abuse, or the future sexual problems either. That's just my opinion. :)
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nothing happened to me either when i got spanked when i was little either. I grew up just fine. I used to spank my kid when she did wrong but not anymore.. she's a bit too old to be spanked now.. I punish her in a different way.
 
RebelGirl said:
nothing happened to me either when i got spanked when i was little either. I grew up just fine. I used to spank my kid when she did wrong but not anymore.. she's a bit too old to be spanked now.. I punish her in a different way.
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Yeppers same here. :)
 
Cheri, I'm not against some swats on the rear. I am neutral on that sort of spanking. That's mild stuff. However spanking with a hand can ALSO be misused (ie if its hard enough to cause visable trauma such as bruising)
Spanking can also mean to be spanked with an instrument, such as a paddle or whatever.
Oh and I found that Christian Domestic Disclipine site.....:Christian Domestic Discipline - Loving Wife Spanking in a Christian Marriage
 
It is a fine line between spanking and abusing. An individual child receives spankings doesn't mean all children should be spanked.
I had been spanked before. My friend was spanked with a wooden spoon. One time, it was broken in a half. He pointed a finger and laughed at his mother, "Ha ha ha! Mom, you broke it!!" Now, he grew up and still teases his mother about the incident.
I'm told the girlfriend was asked by her boyfriend to put kitchen rubber gloves on and spank him. He said that his mother did that to him when he was a kid. Kinky..
 
I don't think spanking cause sexual problems. But I have heard that spanking have been used in "foreplay", which is pretty common. But unless the child or teenager been spanked so many times, it could be possible that lead to corporal punishment that can go too far.
 
Agree with Liebling, I don't believe in spanking. It's too frustration manner to me, I am not that type.

Also I know some of my friends still feel anger at their parents for spanking while they are now 30's... I don't want my children feel like them when they are adult, no thank you.
 
PuyoPiyo said:
Agree with Liebling, I don't believe in spanking. It's too frustration manner to me, I am not that type.

Also I know some of my friends still feel anger at their parents for spanking while they are now 30's... I don't want my children feel like them when they are adult, no thank you.
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I'm agree with you, I had feel anger issue at parent sometime, not just for spanking, it's general of bad treat when I was grow up.
 
Im nuetral on the subject, I agree that it can go too far if done out of frustration. When I spank my daughter it is usually one swat on the rump or leg, just enough to get her attention when she is misbehaving. I usually send her to timeout along with the spanking until she calms down. When she calms down I explain to her on her level why she was spanked and sent to timeout and usually I dont get another pip out of her for the remainder of the day/night.

Now if I get frustrated I go into another room for a few minutes to collect myself then I go back to Maddie to deal with the problem.

As far as the Christian Domestic Discipline - it must be very extreme because you cannot casually view their forum and their website is under construction for whatever reason. Sounds to me like they what they are doing is wrong and taken to extremes. What they have done is taken one or two verses from Psalms and Ephesians and have bent and warped it to what they think it means, not the context of the verses in the passage of scripture. This is wrong and they are using Jesus as a poor exscuse to beat their children. Spanking to me means one or two swats on the rump, but nothing that leaves bruises and it must be done at the appropriate time, not everytime the child misbehaves. CDD is advocating violence and strict control in the home by the father which many Christians believe should be the spiritual leader and the decision maker of the family.
 
Pacman said:
I'm agree with you, I had feel anger issue at parent sometime, not just for spanking, it's general of bad treat when I was grow up.
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*nods* I understand how you feel.. I do have some of issues with my parents that I would never forgive too...
 
Angel said:
LOL Good lordie!
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:)


anyway, my parents spanking me sometime when I wasn't that good.
I don't hate them for that. BEcause it's obviously, I know the wrong.

Limited spank is good reason to use. Too much is bad.

I imagine myself as parents, I can feel for children to be hurt. I say "sorry, I have duty to be parents, hope you forgiven me. love ya sniff..."
 
Dixie said:
Im nuetral on the subject, I agree that it can go too far if done out of frustration. When I spank my daughter it is usually one swat on the rump or leg, just enough to get her attention when she is misbehaving. I usually send her to timeout along with the spanking until she calms down. When she calms down I explain to her on her level why she was spanked and sent to timeout and usually I dont get another pip out of her for the remainder of the day/night.

Now if I get frustrated I go into another room for a few minutes to collect myself then I go back to Maddie to deal with the problem.

As far as the Christian Domestic Discipline - it must be very extreme because you cannot casually view their forum and their website is under construction for whatever reason. Sounds to me like they what they are doing is wrong and taken to extremes. What they have done is taken one or two verses from Psalms and Ephesians and have bent and warped it to what they think it means, not the context of the verses in the passage of scripture. This is wrong and they are using Jesus as a poor exscuse to beat their children. Spanking to me means one or two swats on the rump, but nothing that leaves bruises and it must be done at the appropriate time, not everytime the child misbehaves. CDD is advocating violence and strict control in the home by the father which many Christians believe should be the spiritual leader and the decision maker of the family.
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I was spanked when I was a child too. I am fine but still resent mom because she slapped my face when i was 11. Grrr

I am neutral on that too but when i learned that TJ have SPD. (sensory processing disorder) I had to find another way to punish TJ by giving him time outs and put him in corner. I still do timeouts and tell him no tv and things etc. It was then I learned that spanking can lead to behavior and emotional problem. I thought that was interesting.

as for the website deafdyke provided. I dont like that belief. that is abuse, still. I dont believe in that as it is plainly wrong. i believe that husband and wife have 50/50 equality. not the husband being the man of the house nor he have the authority to spank wife when she is wrong? Wife must pull her panty and her pants down to be spanked? to be humiliated by people? what about him? what if he is wrong? what then? no that is plainly wrong.

like my soon to be ex husband think he is the man of the house and he have right to make decisions all on his own cuz church rules told him to? I had to subsmissive to him and listen to him. I still think it is wrong cuz thats not what the marriage is about? no wonder i got out of the marriage. ugh! :ugh3:
 
deafdyke said:
...I also know off the top of my head that the more conseravtive a person is, the more likely they are into bizare sexuality.
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That's ridiculous.

Besides, since when is "off the top of my head" any kind of real research. :roll:
 
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