I can understand that Caz. My son is 13 in Aug, so he is old enough to know the score. He has always been aware of the situation without all of the ugliness. Luckily my exhusband being there for him has kept my son from ever really feeling the emptiness or hole that many abandoned kids feel from an absent parent. I can also understand your point on having the other parent (they are not always the man) pay for child support. But men get a short stick when it comes to children in a lot of ways. Even a much wanted child can be aborted without so much as a by your leave. I did not have to keep my son, I chose to, why should I make another pay for my decision? I have always seen this as a two way street. As for giving him a chance, the door is always open for him, I have only made the simple request that if he wants to come into my sons life he stays. People are not toys to be picked up and played with only when the mood strikes. But sperm donner has also fell into a bottle so I really do not know what truth his words holds. Time will tell....
