I never said that the "loser" had to be forced to be active in the child's life. If he doesn't want contact, he can stay away. But he still has to support that child materially.
You're confusing two totally different issues.
Paying child support and having a relationship with the child are two completely separate things.
Paying child support doesn't guarantee contact with the child, and not having contact with the child is not dependent on whether or not the man pays child support.
You've got cause and effect confused.
If the guy is a bum who wants to cause pain to the mother of his child he'll do it whether or not he pays child support. He's just trying to make a rationalization out of his reprehensible behavior by blaming the forced child support. Ridiculous--he'd still act that way regardless.
They can pay their support and still go far away.
Why should all dependent children suffer from lack of support just because you know a few sickos? Why give a pass to all deadbeat dads just because a few of them might play head games? If the guy does take it out on others, deal with that particular person, and stop him. Don't let them win.
