I am hearing, but I think I can answer this for my husband who is deaf. His natural deaf voice is deep and loud. He is unaware of course except for the first time we went to church together and he spoke in the chapel just before church started. Most adults in church didn't notice, but the children around us looked at him, all at the same time. I told him his voice was a little too loud. Now he does not talk at all in the chapel and just signs to me.
When he is talking to someone one on one, he does not worry about what his voice sounds like. He has received plenty of feedback from people that tell him he talks well. Plus he loves to joke around and people love that about him. His deaf voice is part of his charm.
When he is in a crowd, he talks much more quietly because he doesn't want to be embarrassed like he was that one time in church. Funny thing is though, this is usually when he needs to talk loud.
For example, we went to a restaurant a few days ago. The waiter kept leaning over and asking him him to repeat what he said. My husband asked me why the waiter could not hear him. I told him it was because of all the noise in the restaurant, the people talking, the noise in the kitchen, and the music playing. For most hearing people, our brains are so use to filtering out background noise that it didn't even register to me how noisy the place was until my husband asked me that question.
Since the waiter couldn't hear him, he wrote notes or pointed on the menu what he wanted. Neither of us used our voices for the entire meal. We only signed to each other, and I was quite pleased with myself that I understood almost everything he said (signed). It was also nice to not have to yell in order to be heard above the background noise. That was a fun meal.
