Right. I think, Fly. What you are driving at with this is about being polite. There's a lot that can be said for how hearies react to deafies. I have my idiosyncracies for sure, but when it really comes down to it, I would do my best to make a deafie feel comfortable around me. If something I did bothered a deaf person, and i was aware of it, I would do my best to change that behavior.
What it's really about, I think, is inclusion. I am sure there's a lot of segregation in society, and if we all just do the little extra things to make each other feel more comfortable, we'd probably all be better for it.