hyperzz
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First let me say in the week or two since I've joined, I've learned a lot and I'm really glad I joined this forum. Second, I couldn't figure out which forum to go to, so I just selected this one. Lastly, let me say that this ended up being a really long rant and I apologize now for the length.
All that being said, I have a question about APD.
I was first introduced to APD about 5 years ago when I had two students with APD and we were discussing what it was and what accommodations they needed. As the principal and parents were describing it, I realized it sounded like me. Asking people to repeat themselves has become so second nature to me that I don't even think about it, unless I miss it the second and third time. Then I just ignore it and try to figure out what they said on my own. I first noticed the problem when I was in high school, but it may have started earlier. I never bothered doing anything about it, because I always passed hearing screenings and figured it was just part of my ADD.
But, this thread is actually not about me. I have some questions about my son. I may just be seeing things because I spent enough time working in the special education department to know that "defiant" behavior is not always actually defiance.
My husband is getting very frustrated with my son. He is two and a half and when he watches movies on the Kindle, he turns the volume all the way up. We turn it back down, and he immediately turns it back up. The other day, he started doing this with the radio. It has to go as high as possible, to the point it is hurting the rest of our ears. When he watches television, he often climbs onto the tv cart so he can sit practically on top of the television. I used to think this was so he could touch the television, but now I'm wondering if it is to hear better, since there is a speaker on top of the tv.
I have heard stories or seen interviews about how children who are deaf/HoH do this so they can hear better. The thing is, we don't think he has hearing problems. Yesterday, for example, his sister was upstairs singing "Where is Thumbkin" and he was downstairs and he stopped what he was doing so he could do the fingerplay while she sang. I suppose its possible he has a slight hearing loss, but would he still be turning up the volume so high? Could he have APD and be turning the volume up so he can focus on the movie/music and not be distracted by outside noises? Or is he just being a defiant 2-year-old and turning the volume up because he knows it will get our attention? Can APD even be diagnosed at such a young age?
I'm not sure what kind of answers I'm looking for. I'm worried if I mention this to the pediatrician, she's just going to say "he's a boy". He was a late talker and my husband has always been concerned about his lack of speech (he will speak in sentences only when reciting stories or songs; he does not create sentences on his own). I guess I'm just wondering whether this behavior is a symptom of APD? His pediatrician does not do hearing screenings at this age (I don't know if she does them at all, actually) and he does have other "defiant" behavior. I guess I'm just a frustrated mother trying to figure out how to understand my son.
I guess I'm wondering if anyone else has gone through this with their child. I feel as if I am spending so much time yelling at my son, when maybe he is trying to tell me something. But, he wont/cant tell me what that something is.
All that being said, I have a question about APD.
I was first introduced to APD about 5 years ago when I had two students with APD and we were discussing what it was and what accommodations they needed. As the principal and parents were describing it, I realized it sounded like me. Asking people to repeat themselves has become so second nature to me that I don't even think about it, unless I miss it the second and third time. Then I just ignore it and try to figure out what they said on my own. I first noticed the problem when I was in high school, but it may have started earlier. I never bothered doing anything about it, because I always passed hearing screenings and figured it was just part of my ADD.
But, this thread is actually not about me. I have some questions about my son. I may just be seeing things because I spent enough time working in the special education department to know that "defiant" behavior is not always actually defiance.
My husband is getting very frustrated with my son. He is two and a half and when he watches movies on the Kindle, he turns the volume all the way up. We turn it back down, and he immediately turns it back up. The other day, he started doing this with the radio. It has to go as high as possible, to the point it is hurting the rest of our ears. When he watches television, he often climbs onto the tv cart so he can sit practically on top of the television. I used to think this was so he could touch the television, but now I'm wondering if it is to hear better, since there is a speaker on top of the tv.
I have heard stories or seen interviews about how children who are deaf/HoH do this so they can hear better. The thing is, we don't think he has hearing problems. Yesterday, for example, his sister was upstairs singing "Where is Thumbkin" and he was downstairs and he stopped what he was doing so he could do the fingerplay while she sang. I suppose its possible he has a slight hearing loss, but would he still be turning up the volume so high? Could he have APD and be turning the volume up so he can focus on the movie/music and not be distracted by outside noises? Or is he just being a defiant 2-year-old and turning the volume up because he knows it will get our attention? Can APD even be diagnosed at such a young age?
I'm not sure what kind of answers I'm looking for. I'm worried if I mention this to the pediatrician, she's just going to say "he's a boy". He was a late talker and my husband has always been concerned about his lack of speech (he will speak in sentences only when reciting stories or songs; he does not create sentences on his own). I guess I'm just wondering whether this behavior is a symptom of APD? His pediatrician does not do hearing screenings at this age (I don't know if she does them at all, actually) and he does have other "defiant" behavior. I guess I'm just a frustrated mother trying to figure out how to understand my son.
I guess I'm wondering if anyone else has gone through this with their child. I feel as if I am spending so much time yelling at my son, when maybe he is trying to tell me something. But, he wont/cant tell me what that something is.