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lily99

lily99

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Hello, um, I just found out I have menieres disease and have already started to lose some of my hearing. I was just wondering if anyone has had a boyfriend/girlfriend break up with them after they went deaf or hard of hearing? I'm terrified that the person I'm with is gonna get sick of the communication barrier and give up. I keep imagining him running off with some cute redhead who doesn't have to sign to talk and probably is some great singer or something. Sorry for rambling, I just don't have anyone else to ask since no one in my family is deaf and I don't know anyone that is either. I'm having trouble dealing with the menieres as it is, I just don't want to worry about him growing to hate me because I can't hear.:(
 
If he is that kind of person, you don't want him anyway.
 
MCB said:
If he is that kind of person, you don't want him anyway.
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i agree,if he love you then he have compassion,you in fear of loosing him then something must have happen for you to feel this way...get in first talk to him about your fears then dump him if your fears are right
 
Well, first of all, if they break up with you for any reason it really means the relationship is not meant to be, right.

I think it is a real possibility that any person with any disability has to face. Relationships take a lot of work and a disability, depending on how you cope with it, adds to that work. Not everyone is up to the task of dealing with the extra issues.

I know people who have broken up with people who were going through cancer and I can't blame them for being honest that they were not up to the task.

I have Meniere's and profound hearing loss and, yes, I don't get as many dates and my relationships are different than those of people who don't.

However, this doesn't mean you won't date or that your relationship will not work. As even with normal relationships, you have to put in the effort and hope for the best. It's not going to be the same, might be better or worse. It's up to you and your partner.


P.S. You might be over thinking this. I would talk to your partner about it if it is bothering you that much.
 
You are not alone. My hearing is a pretty big insecurity for me. My loss is progressive, and in the last couple years or so it's gotten very very bad, profoundly deaf now. In march I left my husband of 14 years, well technically it's 15 now, haven't divorced yet. If I said that I wasn't afraid that my being deaf wouldn't put men off me I'd be a huge liar. I certainly worry over it, and my worries over my hearing kept me with that crazy asshole far longer than I ever should have stayed. But I did leave ;) working on the rest lol
 
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