This is an excellent post. You will find so, so many stories here that are all variations on a common theme.
Spoken language will never be natural for your daughter. Even for those of us here who speak and lipread well, it is difficult and challenging. ASL is the true native language of the Deaf. Your daughter deserves a language that feels natural to her.
She can learn both ASL and spoken/written English concurrently. Don't let the "specialists" tell you otherwise.
