after some more struggling today, i finally got it working.
i dunno why, but i needed to do a hard reboot on the back of the router, after i did that, the VP worked, but my comp internet didn't....grrrr... so i struggled some more, did another hard reboot, redid username and password, looked around in other options and noticed that the DMZ, ip number was missing the last 3 digits, put that in and it worked....simple solution to a complicated problem, thanks for the help.
