Parents.

[Beggingtolive]

Hi. I'm Chy and one of the only people I have had a serious relationship with was deaf. I met him five years after he'd lost his hearing and to be honest I never really asked how he'd lost his hearing. I figured if he wanted me to know, he would have told me...

So the entire thing ended because his mother hated me. I can hear, and I've been told many times I am not ugly.. I guess I can see why she would be suspecious but I was never, ANYTHING but respectful to her. I went out of my way to make him feel comfortable, not because he was deaf, but because I really did like him. However, she didn't care. She never said anything nice to me, and would tell me how "terrible" I was. When we'd be alone. =[

Then I began to read more into deaf culture and I think I might have crossed a cultural barrier. She could hear, but it was as if I was "playing a cruel joke" (Her words not mine) on him.

Has anyone ever had an experience like this? Was there a certain approach I should have taken with his parent?

This may sound silly, but every time I've ever been really comfortable with someone they have been deaf.. At least in a romantic sense.

I just really don't want to be placed in this situation again and mess eveything up by having the parent not like me. >.<

Any advice?

 

[TWA]

Doesn't sound like he was really part of Deaf culture if he had only lost his hearing five years before you met. Well, he could have been part of Deaf culture, but seems like he would also still have strong ties to the hearing world as well and not be offended if you made a faux pas or something.

Sounds to me like the woman was just a possessive bitch and didn't want to see her son with ANYBODY. Mothers can be like that...

 

[Beggingtolive]

I was trying really hard not to call her a bitch. lol.