Hey....my thinking - thinking as I type....based on many years of knowing him is-
background = very homogenous, mainstream culture, extremely rural <one stoplight> town in a conservative <especially in comparison to mine> family.
personal = he can be very gregarious with familiar people but has a shy or "hesitant" side about him. has a VERY hard time with change and sometimes with accepting differences, or at least being involved with things perceieved as "different". Not so much UN- accepting of differences in others, but being involved with that or taking that into himself.
example: there's lots of Harley-Davidson bike stuff that happens in the Summer here. One of the dealerships has lots of activity - music, parties. I'm not a biker nor involved at all with it but have been to some of the daytime Harley biker parties at this dealership. Why? Don't know exactly but I do enjoy rock/metal music and I like to people-watch and I do things in my own way.
My husband also likes rock and metal music but is worried to attend the biker rally at the dealership although one of his previous co-workers and a kinda friend or acquaintance from before, is a biker. He came to our house where we lived before, a couple of times. He has been involved in various parts of the biker stuff, not just the "clean" parts. A nice guy.
But hub will not go to where a whole group of Harley riders are, he isn't into the whole looks and everything and is nervous about all the people and the bikes. he is worried about tyhe amount of people that he feels are so different from him.
I'm not bothered.
so that's an example.
Such a hard time with the change and transitions part I may guess he could be somewhere even on the Spectrum <Asberger and related>. He could be what many would call "quirky"....many would say that about me too but in a different way.He has a very hard time with body language. sometimes reading facial expressions, subtlety and ambiguity.
he is extremely literal and verbal seems to....have more of a desire, guess I'd call it - to "fit in". I've never fitted in so I don't have the same perspective.
he finds it difficult to think in other ways than what he's used to. he thinks in words only. i think in pictures, signs and words - usually one of the first two.
background = very homogenous, mainstream culture, extremely rural <one stoplight> town in a conservative <especially in comparison to mine> family.
personal = he can be very gregarious with familiar people but has a shy or "hesitant" side about him. has a VERY hard time with change and sometimes with accepting differences, or at least being involved with things perceieved as "different". Not so much UN- accepting of differences in others, but being involved with that or taking that into himself.
example: there's lots of Harley-Davidson bike stuff that happens in the Summer here. One of the dealerships has lots of activity - music, parties. I'm not a biker nor involved at all with it but have been to some of the daytime Harley biker parties at this dealership. Why? Don't know exactly but I do enjoy rock/metal music and I like to people-watch and I do things in my own way.
My husband also likes rock and metal music but is worried to attend the biker rally at the dealership although one of his previous co-workers and a kinda friend or acquaintance from before, is a biker. He came to our house where we lived before, a couple of times. He has been involved in various parts of the biker stuff, not just the "clean" parts. A nice guy.
But hub will not go to where a whole group of Harley riders are, he isn't into the whole looks and everything and is nervous about all the people and the bikes. he is worried about tyhe amount of people that he feels are so different from him.
I'm not bothered.
so that's an example.
Such a hard time with the change and transitions part I may guess he could be somewhere even on the Spectrum <Asberger and related>. He could be what many would call "quirky"....many would say that about me too but in a different way.He has a very hard time with body language. sometimes reading facial expressions, subtlety and ambiguity.
he is extremely literal and verbal seems to....have more of a desire, guess I'd call it - to "fit in". I've never fitted in so I don't have the same perspective.
he finds it difficult to think in other ways than what he's used to. he thinks in words only. i think in pictures, signs and words - usually one of the first two.
