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Deaf Mom or Dad,

Of course you guys have hearing child or children. Your kids have their friends. Your kids want to sleep over at their friend's house but their friend's parent don't accept your deafness. So they don't allow your kids to sleep over their house and not allow your kids's friend sleep over at your house. Do you have this problem?

About me. My son is hearing. He have friends. His friends and he want sleep over at his friend's and my house. But his friends's parent don't accept me so they refuse call or give us chance talk. My son gave his friends our phone numbers. His friends's parent never call us. My son asked his friends for phone number so my husband can call his friend's parents. But his friends said their parent dont allow them to give him their phone number. It was so mean of their parent! My son have only one girl friend. His girl friend's parent are our friend also.

I am curious if you guys have same problem. I hope that I am not alone.
 
im sure i would agree with posts!

mostly parents who also deaf and can communicate with their friend's parents about sleptovers if says yes or NO! they be patient for that.

when im sleptover at my friend's house lots who lives in Coffeyville,KS and my friend's parent very nice at me and my mom. But my mom been enjoy talk with my friend's mom and my friend come my house when im lives in Arkansas have good times.

my brother's friend always sleptover at my house lots!!!!!!!!!!! and i cant stand at his friend for sures but im been patient lots anyway.

im sure many million parents can chat each other they wont hates if dont accept to sleptovers dues their parents also deaf but can simples write and paper give their friend's parents of number.
 
Really? That's awful of those parents. :(

It hasn't happened to me not as far as I know. My son's friends are very friendly included their parents, no problems or conflicts so far.
 
WTF? Seemed like they don't understand deafness! :ugh3:

I hope nothing gonna happen with my son's friend's parent in the future. He haven't had a sleep over yet. Someday! Maybe by the time he enter 1st grade and make more friends. Who knows!

I am sorry you had to go thru that. UGH!!! Poor your son. :( I am sure he felt bad that he couldn't go over for sleep over.
 
Damn! I am sorry that u had to go thru this!

So far, I havent had any problems. Only one time when I hosted a sleepover party for my daughter was one parent kept asking my husband if I can take care of other people's kids. My husband kept asking her yea, why. She kept saying "I dont know..I dont know." We dont know if it had something to do with my deafness or just that was her being paranoid in general.
 
That absolutely has to suck.

I am HOH and losing what hearing I do have left. I am a single mom of a hearing child, I hope I dont have that sort of problem amongst other parents when my DD is old enough to attend sleepovers and birthday parties.

I may not want a large group of kids in my home at one time, but I would welcome a small group of 3-6 kids at a time. I think anymore than that and I would probably have too much chaos and not able to keep up.

I can sort of understand another parents paranoia about the deaf parents ability to hear the screams of a kid in trouble, that is why you keep the kids within your sight at all times and to implemend the buddy system.

But at the same time I would use this situation as a bit of an educational opportunity on the deaf. Perhaps you should start small. Arrange a playdate where all the kids can come over to your house or their house for a couple of hours and you can visit with the other childs parents. Let them ask any questions that they have. Give it some time and use it to slowly break the ice. Eventually the other parents will realize that they have little to fear and should not have to worry about communication between you and them once you get them established well before-hand. If you use TTY tell them it is not a telemarketing service, it is a tele-type phone for the deaf and what you type is relayed to a central operator that then speaks what is typed to the hearing person on the other phone. By law none of the conversations are recorded or repeated elsewhere.

Use birthdays to invite your son's friends over. My hope is that this situation is resolved soon and there is no need for the hearing parents to be paranoid about deaf parents or children of deaf parents. It is not a contagious disease.
 
I never had a problem with my son's friends. He has sleepover my house most of the time. He likes that alot. Not much for him to sleep over his friend's house. One of his friend's father was yelling not at him but at his kids and he called me up to come and get him. Oh boy poor randy.
 
I dont feel sorry for you, i feel very sorry for those people that treat you that way,i have been hoh now for 4 years and it astounds me how people treat me,once they know i am deaf they turn to my husband and talk to him like i dont exist, or they treat me like i have mental dissabilities or they scream at me {because that always helps!!} so does the spray of spit!!!so far my son who is 5 has gone to his friends birthday parties,but i have not told any of the parents that i am deaf,and i tend avoid meeting people,for the way they might treat me,i actually never thought about my kids and there friends or friends parents doing somthing like what has happened to you,but i will now, i hope they dont get singled out.
 
I may have issues with my children's friends. If my son wants to invite a girl friend to sleep over. I will not allow this, and I know it is sexism. I prefer my son to invite a boy to sleepover which is fine with me.
Otherwise, I have a son and daughter, so it is okay for friends to sleep over here at my place.
If my son is in teenager, and wants to invite a girl to sleep over. I would forbid because I don't want to hear or know what will happen in his bedroom in my house.

Speaking of other parents, they should accept if you are deaf. It is a discrimation (Sp)
 
:shock: what a nasty!!! Well I have small hearing children under 5 yrs old so :dunno:
but I am pissed at his friend's parent! :pissed:
 
Wow, that's bad. Why don't you look up their phone number in the phone book?
 
I wasnt allowed a sleep over until I was 6 or 7 as a kid, so I guess when Maddie is 6 or 7 and shows some respect for others and responsibilty on a 6 year old level then yeah I would encourage her to invite a friend over once or twice a month - as with Sugarpuff, I dont want her asking boys to sleep over because I dont want them ahem - exploring their bodies and what not. Not that anything would happen but the sheer idea of it sends chills down my spine, plus I dont want her getting the wrong idea about sex and boys as they are portrayed in the media.
 
Dixie said:
I wasnt allowed a sleep over until I was 6 or 7 as a kid, so I guess when Maddie is 6 or 7 and shows some respect for others and responsibilty on a 6 year old level then yeah I would encourage her to invite a friend over once or twice a month - as with Sugarpuff, I dont want her asking boys to sleep over because I dont want them ahem - exploring their bodies and what not. Not that anything would happen but the sheer idea of it sends chills down my spine, plus I dont want her getting the wrong idea about sex and boys as they are portrayed in the media.
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My mom wouldnt allow me to have boys for sleepovers and I hated boys growing up anyway..so no problem there. :giggle:

My daughter still thinks boys are yucky so far no complaints there. :)
 
lol, I don't allow my son or his girlfriend to sleep over at my house or her house. They just visit and chat and play.
 
ghsh1996 said:
My son is 9 years old. My husband is a hearing. I don't know why!
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Right.

Are you both smokers?

I was disappointed with my youngest daughter coming home from her friend's house smelt full of smoking on her clothes, because of it, I stopped her visit her friend's.

And another thing, I stopped my daughter to visit her friend's place is because when I came to collect her from friend's, her parents saying to me "They are not here, they are out somewhere for a walk" I am not happy with their lack of care for my child.

And one more reason, my Principal warning us about my daughter's friend's family background, they saying my daughter's friend is lovely, but please be careful with her parents'. I let her visit this friend because it had happen the same to me before, my headmaster warned my parent's about my friend's.
 
Opal said:
Right.

Are you both smokers?

I was disappointed with my youngest daughter coming home from her friend's house smelt full of smoking on her clothes, because of it, I stopped her visit her friend's.

And another thing, I stopped my daughter to visit her friend's place is because when I came to collect her from friend's, her parents saying to me "They are not here, they are out somewhere for a walk" I am not happy with their lack of care for my child.

And one more reason, my Principal warning us about my daughter's friend's family background, they saying my daughter's friend is lovely, but please be careful with her parents'. I let her visit this friend because it had happen the same to me before, my headmaster warned my parent's about my friend's.
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excuse me, We are not smoker. My husband said many people are fearing about my deafness. They don't know how deal with me that I am deaf mother. They think I cannot handle their child because they don't know sign language. My husband and My son know sign language. They can tell me what his friends need or want. nothing wrong about us. Okay?
 
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