now ladies and gentleman what are you looking for in a parther?

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will me i am looking for boyfriend who treat me right but for now i am single and i am living it,some times wait for the right person to come ROUND.:wave::lol::aw:
 
I try not to say what I'm looking for in a partner because if they find out what I'm looking for, the person can pretend to be someone just to get what they want and then break your heart. So I just wait it out and see if they're truly the one for me or not. But of course I want honesty and someone who treats everyone right.
 
Well, with going through a divorce, I have learned a lot from my past marriage. I believe now that a honest, respectable partner is the most important thing to look for in a man. You kinda have to make sure when getting into a relationship, you both are in it for what you want in life. Communication is also very important! And humor is awesome:)
 
I want a person that is sensitive to my needs just as I would be sensitive to theirs. I want a relationship that is give and take and not just give, give, give on my end. I don't want to spend 2 hours with someone and then feel drained because I never got anything in return. Communication is key in any relationship, but even more so in marriage.

I can't stand criticism. My ex criticized everything from my cooking, to my housecleaning, to how and when I did the laundry. Nothing I did was ever good enough. If I am not doing something up to your standards, either offer to do it and share the load, or help me do it.

What I need is someone that can be honest with me. No hiding feelings, and I want to have a serious discussion where everything is laid on the table and worked out. If you have an opinion, please share it, but do so in a way that you wouldn't want to listen to. In other words, don't bash me, and I won't bash you.

If your uncomfortable or unhappy about something, don't hold it in and wait for it to bottle up and explode later, share it when your comfortable and when you do don't hold anything back.

I want someone to accept me not except me for what I am. If your not comfortable with my quirks, then I'm not the one for you.

I want you to respect me. Don't say you will when you know you won't. Don't yell at me, talk to me. Don't hit me, hold me instead.

When I'm having a bad day - just an ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on would be enough. Thoughtful advice would be a nice bonus.

I don't need a fancy dinner, but just a small note or card that showed you genuinely and honestly thought of me would mean more to me.

If you're teaching me something new, please have patience. I don't understand a lot, but I do understand frustration and the difference of wanting to teach something and making a chore of it is.

If the only thing that turns you on is the physical act of sex, then you need to think again. I should be able to turn you on just by being in the same room.

And lastly, I just want someone to love me. It's only a small part of marriage really, but if there's nothing left to do, then just showing me you love me would be wonderful.

Now that you all know I'm a sensitive romantic at heart, now you can all say I will never find love, which is exactly what I believe because I know I am absolutely delusional when it comes to love and relationships. I'm not one to come running to for advice as I have very little to show for it.
 
that right i agree with you

:lol::wave:that right i agree with you
Dixie said:
I want a person that is sensitive to my needs just as I would be sensitive to theirs. I want a relationship that is give and take and not just give, give, give on my end. I don't want to spend 2 hours with someone and then feel drained because I never got anything in return. Communication is key in any relationship, but even more so in marriage.

I can't stand criticism. My ex criticized everything from my cooking, to my housecleaning, to how and when I did the laundry. Nothing I did was ever good enough. If I am not doing something up to your standards, either offer to do it and share the load, or help me do it.

What I need is someone that can be honest with me. No hiding feelings, and I want to have a serious discussion where everything is laid on the table and worked out. If you have an opinion, please share it, but do so in a way that you wouldn't want to listen to. In other words, don't bash me, and I won't bash you.

If your uncomfortable or unhappy about something, don't hold it in and wait for it to bottle up and explode later, share it when your comfortable and when you do don't hold anything back.

I want someone to accept me not except me for what I am. If your not comfortable with my quirks, then I'm not the one for you.

I want you to respect me. Don't say you will when you know you won't. Don't yell at me, talk to me. Don't hit me, hold me instead.

When I'm having a bad day - just an ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on would be enough. Thoughtful advice would be a nice bonus.

I don't need a fancy dinner, but just a small note or card that showed you genuinely and honestly thought of me would mean more to me.

If you're teaching me something new, please have patience. I don't understand a lot, but I do understand frustration and the difference of wanting to teach something and making a chore of it is.

If the only thing that turns you on is the physical act of sex, then you need to think again. I should be able to turn you on just by being in the same room.

And lastly, I just want someone to love me. It's only a small part of marriage really, but if there's nothing left to do, then just showing me you love me would be wonderful.

Now that you all know I'm a sensitive romantic at heart, now you can all say I will never find love, which is exactly what I believe because I know I am absolutely delusional when it comes to love and relationships. I'm not one to come running to for advice as I have very little to show for it.
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I have so much to say, will keep it brief in a nutshell, a guy who is happy within himself, be my BEST friend and more ;)
 
What I look for in partner?

Well, he has to be funny, handsome, kind, respectful, friendly, easy going/laid back, wants to be successful, and is adventure daring. :) Oh another thing... He has to be Romantic.
 
i agree with yu on this one.

i have the intest thing about guys as you.
~*Kaelei*~ said:
What I look for in partner?

Well, he has to be funny, handsome, kind, respectful, friendly, easy going/laid back, wants to be successful, and is adventure daring. :) Oh another thing... He has to be Romantic.
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first thing and foremost, is friendship, and by that i mean being a true freind, more like a buddy and have FUN all the time but also can sit down and be serious about what is between 'us' but not only that also be serious about what to talk about, challenge each other about way we think about the world, share perspectives, food for thoughts (like here in AD) but more with a personal touch and just being a innocent like a kid (do you remember how you befriended classmates it didnt take much judgement just sheer 'im your friend and what shall we do?' i like this approach not some 'we ought to go out for dinner at that resturent because this is what everyone do' or watch this film because everyone says so....bullshit - i dont believe in living the way everyone else does, its okay to try but i wont let it rule me.
 
Interest to know you!

If you're looking for a distance dating you can reach me I'm a hard of hearing :P:wave:
 
I forgot to add, no one way street it takes two people to communicate. I really like it when a guy is interested in what goes on my life and is considerate and I do the same as well.
When he's attentive that's a plus :) Its a turn off when your in a conversation and he's not even interested in what you said, if that's the case why bother to talk to me in the first place.
 
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that's true. I noticed that a lot of the girls I've been with in the past have all had some problems that they liked having to themselves. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn't go in and solve their problems or help make their lives easier or even offer better experiences than they've ever had before. It was just easier for them to continue having a bad life and making people feel sorry for them, especially me since I care a lot. After some experience, I have noticed that it's not my job to fix other people's problems and if they truly wanted to have a better life, they would be changing their ways and going after the better things life can offer like me. And most of all, I don't like being used by people, especially the ones I'm close to.

So yeah, I'm gonna aim higher and go for the ones that are more deserving of my time. But for now, I'll work on getting a career first. ;)
 
MoonDrifter said:
that's true. I noticed that a lot of the girls I've been with in the past have all had some problems that they liked having to themselves. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn't go in and solve their problems or help make their lives easier or even offer better experiences than they've ever had before. It was just easier for them to continue having a bad life and making people feel sorry for them, especially me since I care a lot. After some experience, I have noticed that it's not my job to fix other people's problems and if they truly wanted to have a better life, they would be changing their ways and going after the better things life can offer like me. And most of all, I don't like being used by people, especially the ones I'm close to.

So yeah, I'm gonna aim higher and go for the ones that are more deserving of my time. But for now, I'll work on getting a career first. ;)
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Yes, your career is important :) I wish you the best!
In time, you will find a nice girl again. We all live and learn through those rough times and pick up the pieces again.
 
Definitely. I've learned so much from this past relationship.

1. Never try to solve someone else's problems. (self-esteem issues)
2. Never go into a relationship that's screwed up from the beginning. (foundation)
3. Never move in too fast too soon. (timing + personal growth)
4. Never accept the other person's words without backup or follow-through. (truth)
5. Never change yourself for someone else. (being true to yourself)

and honestly, I've now realized that it was never a true relationship from the beginning. I have been lied to many times and all she wanted was to use me for her emotional satisfaction. It hurts I know, but I understood where she was coming from and did what I thought was best for her, and for us. Since I was used and that it didn't work out, I will move on knowing that I did my best for her and her child.

I'm fine now. It's exciting to be refreshed into the single's world: there's so many freaking opportunities out there and tons of mingling with cute girls.

And there's one that I like hehehe. She's really cute and I like her enthusiasm about life. I'll be chill with her and spend more time getting better at my studies in school. Gotta get successful first!
 
Definitely. I've learned so much from this past relationship.

1. Never try to solve someone else's problems. (self-esteem issues)
2. Never go into a relationship that's screwed up from the beginning. (foundation)
3. Never move in too fast too soon. (timing + personal growth)
4. Never accept the other person's words without backup or follow-through. (truth)
5. Never change yourself for someone else. (being true to yourself)

and honestly, I've now realized that it was never a true relationship from the beginning. I have been lied to many times and all she wanted was to use me for her emotional satisfaction. It hurts I know, but I understood where she was coming from and did what I thought was best for her, and for us. Since I was used and that it didn't work out, I will move on knowing that I did my best for her and her child.

I'm fine now. It's exciting to be refreshed into the single's world: there's so many freaking opportunities out there and tons of mingling with cute girls.

And there's one that I like hehehe. She's really cute and I like her enthusiasm about life. I'll be chill with her and spend more time getting better at my studies in school. Gotta get successful first!
 
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