I gave this some thought and get what you are saying 
. But I am going to stick with what I said earlier about my own personal opinion regarding defining myself (or not). Also, I believe the moments I mentioned were defining moments in my eyes. They added to who I was by defining that I was a coach, a wife, a mother, a Fibro - but those define me in particular circumstances at a given time, those can and often do change. I don't disagree that some feel freedom in defining themselves - I, however, feel more freedom, challenge and possible growth in not defining myself.
