I agree... just like people who are Caucasian don't think about how being white actually does define at least a part of who they are. Part of having that privilege means that you don't have to think about it... that you don't have to wonder about your accessibility... so you do not think the same way as lets say... a black person... because we do live in a white world, we do live in a hearing world... we do live in a mans world... and those who are in the dominant position... they don't have to think about these things, and sometimes... they refuse to see the unearned privilege they are given... just because of something they can't change about themselves.
being Deaf is a huge part of who I am, and so many people that I know... don't know me as the Deaf person I have become... but they still know me as the little broken hearie who speaks and asks what all the time... as someone they look down upon... because obviously i'm not as smart as them... and... I'm choosing not to associate with those people anymore... because they don't know who I am anymore... they don't know the Deaf me...
