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Valorrian

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Hi,
I'm Val. I lost my hearing about two years ago from meningitis. Since then I've been in my house. I don't go out any more. I'm extremely lonely. My friends that I had all left and went to college. I was suppose to go too but I got sick. I'm angry and depressed a lot. At times I think I'm going crazy. I'd like to meet some deaf people here and just chat. I could use some friends.
 
Hello and welcome! Feel free to join in and enjoy all this website has to offer.
 
Hi, Val, welcome to the community; I'm new here too, starting to lose my hearing due to Meniere's. Have had it for a long time on left side and now getting it on my right.
 
Hello and Welcome! Depression and mental health issues are awful. I've had them myself and I have now been cured with medicine. So their is light on the other end of the tunnel. It just doesn't feel like that at the time. Have you seen a councillor. That would help too and to learn sign language if you haven't already done so.
 
A. K. said:
Hi, Val, welcome to the community; I'm new here too, starting to lose my hearing due to Meniere's. Have had it for a long time on left side and now getting it on my right.
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Hi A.K.,
What is Meniere's?
 
vegandreamer said:
Hello and Welcome! Depression and mental health issues are awful. I've had them myself and I have now been cured with medicine. So their is light on the other end of the tunnel. It just doesn't feel like that at the time. Have you seen a councillor. That would help too and to learn sign language if you haven't already done so.
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No, I don't go to a therapist. Recently, I've decided to face my issues and start to do something about them. I've tried to ignore my hearing loss for a couple of years now and I can't do it anymore. I started the process of getting a cochlear implant but today was notified that I didn't qualify for one. I'm going to have to deal with my hearing loss as is. This is a big blow as I was hoping to be hearing again soon and go back to my old life. Now, I'm going to have to accept this and move on. I just don't know how. I am thinking if I ever want to have a full live again I'll need some help - therapy.

My mom has hired someone to teach me sign language privately. I'll go tomorrow for my first lesson. I'm very anxious. Any time I go out now I seem to have a panic attack. Do you sign?
 
You are deaf blind? I started therapy. I just went to one session so far. Yes, I'm also learning some sign language. It is going slow but I am realizing that it is going to be easier to communicate if I know it. I am not a good a lipreader. I see a lot of people here say that they can lipread. I am not that good at it. Maybe I'd be better if I didn't get so anxious.
 
Valorrian said:
You are deaf blind? I started therapy. I just went to one session so far. Yes, I'm also learning some sign language. It is going slow but I am realizing that it is going to be easier to communicate if I know it. I am not a good a lipreader. I see a lot of people here say that they can lipread. I am not that good at it. Maybe I'd be better if I didn't get so anxious.
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Therapy might be a good idea because we are pretty blunt in here.
We are a family, though, a place where you are welcome no matter how bad you have been.
 
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Greetings from old analog, ha Val looking around sight trying to find your story got bits and pieces, so your 20 something ben deaf for 2-3 years having trouble accepting, hum,,, no fair , wate up, what about me, and the biggy why me, why not one young that can make a stand, do research, fight the stereotype deaf and doum, it's hard being young, harder yet being given something you don't want, like my friend Johnny find her at Johny and friends. Com
 
I cannot take a stand right now. I’m still not there yet. I need full acceptance of who I’ve become first. Having meningitis and the after effects really shook my confidence. It’s not just being deaf I also have cognitive issues I’m having to accept. I get frustrated easily at thing that use to come easy for me, now I struggle with. It is hard. I am doing better then before though. I have come a long way since I posted all that. I communicate with my family in ASL and even have requested interpreters at appointments. I am adjusting and accepting my new normal but it’s slow going and that’s ok. I am moving forward in the right direction.
 
Hello, Valorrian. I use to visit this site in (some of) my most desperate moments; today I've found this post of yours from two years ago that describes how I've been feeling since forever. How are you doing now?
 
Valorrian said:
No, I don't go to a therapist. Recently, I've decided to face my issues and start to do something about them. I've tried to ignore my hearing loss for a couple of years now and I can't do it anymore. I started the process of getting a cochlear implant but today was notified that I didn't qualify for one. I'm going to have to deal with my hearing loss as is. This is a big blow as I was hoping to be hearing again soon and go back to my old life. Now, I'm going to have to accept this and move on. I just don't know how. I am thinking if I ever want to have a full live again I'll need some help - therapy.

My mom has hired someone to teach me sign language privately. I'll go tomorrow for my first lesson. I'm very anxious. Any time I go out now I seem to have a panic attack. Do you sign?
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I hope your first lesson went well. Sign language is beautifully expressive.

There are many resources to get help on other fronts. Therapy and support groups; some meet over Zoom or similar services if you want to try them from home first. All the best to you
 
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