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Just happened to be looking through the local paper and found a new HOH/DEAF Social at a church in the next town south of here on the 1st and 3rd Mondays of each month, I think I will be going to see how everyone is and make some new friends, Possibly go regularly if it is a decent social with nice members who are welcoming and not rude like the last place we went to last year. It says everyone is welcomed so it seems like it will be.
I will post a follow up here if i go.
 
MangaReader said:
You're lucky there's something. Hope it goes well.
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The last one we went to, we were invited to go by a member. The first meet waent great, the second meet we went to everyone was just rude? It wasnt just us I found out, the member said there were several complaints from others as well even members who have been there for quite some time. We took a couple dishes of food just like everyone else who participated, so it wasnt like we were free loading either. The new place states that you dont need to bring anything but I think its better to do so anyways, just always been my respect to others and sharing.
 
Maybe they are rude to new people. Groups that know each other tend to stick together and it's hard for a new person to get 'in' the group.

If they are truly deaf/hoh then that's good. Mine has a get-together called silent dinner not too far from me but they're mostly are ASL students. I'm not interested in mingling with someone who just wants to 'use' me to practice on. Very few deaf people go there and they tell me Jacksonville isn't good for deaf social events.

I'll wait until my kids are out of school and move elsewhere. I haven't seen/talked to a deaf person in a year or two. I am originally from Suburbs of Chicago and they have the best deaf events. Virtually everyone is either deaf or Hoh and they get together once a month or two. I miss it.
 
MangaReader said:
Maybe they are rude to new people. Groups that know each other tend to stick together and it's hard for a new person to get 'in' the group.

If they are truly deaf/hoh then that's good. Mine has a get-together called silent dinner not too far from me but they're mostly are ASL students. I'm not interested in mingling with someone who just wants to 'use' me to practice on. Very few deaf people go there and they tell me Jacksonville isn't good for deaf social events.

I'll wait until my kids are out of school and move elsewhere. I haven't seen/talked to a deaf person in a year or two. I am originally from Suburbs of Chicago and they have the best deaf events. Virtually everyone is either deaf or Hoh and they get together once a month or two. I miss it.
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I do get tired of people using me for practice dummy.

I would be curious how the church event goes. I've been wanting to visit St. Louis area for some times.
 
I went to make friends, not just to learn ASL but it also helps to know people to be more fluent in ASL by using it. I know the basics and still learning so I am slow. The last group was odd, They were as friendly as could be, they knew we were new to them, we were introduced by the member who invited us, but the second meet that member wasnt there ( they have deaf children but themselves are hearing) and the other members, including the ones we had great conversations with the first meet were just ignorant as could be... so that was the last time we set foot there, we even left shortly after since they seemed hostile that night. We were invited back by the member but we turned down the invite because of the hostality and felt we werent welcomed.
 
VacationGuy234 said:
Are you a member of that religion?
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It was non-denominational, but it had nothing to do with the church its self. it was a group and they rented or had access to the hall for meets twice a month as well. The member who invited us was the one who had the hall, as she was a member of the church, the other members came from all around even out of state for the meets. I know 2 members were from Ill. and Kansas, another member was from another state. so I dont believe it was a matter of religeon, the member who invited us was Penticostal (spelling) I am catholic/christain.
 
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dereksbicycles said:
MangaReader said:
Maybe they are rude to new people. Groups that know each other tend to stick together and it's hard for a new person to get 'in' the group.

If they are truly deaf/hoh then that's good. Mine has a get-together called silent dinner not too far from me but they're mostly are ASL students. I'm not interested in mingling with someone who just wants to 'use' me to practice on. Very few deaf people go there and they tell me Jacksonville isn't good for deaf social events.

I'll wait until my kids are out of school and move elsewhere. I haven't seen/talked to a deaf person in a year or two. I am originally from Suburbs of Chicago and they have the best deaf events. Virtually everyone is either deaf or Hoh and they get together once a month or two. I miss it.
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I do get tired of people using me for practice dummy.

I would be curious how the church event goes. I've been wanting to visit St. Louis area for some times.
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St. Louis is beautiful. Been a while since I was there, though. Last time I went there was in 2002, so it's been a while.
 
Is it a "truism" there is NO "deaf community" just an actualization of "local "persons" with supposedly "common interests" re "deafness" ?

It has been suggested-- AllDeaf.com is "somewhat a microcosm" of the "deaf community"?

aside: except what I have read from the public library the "bulk of information" comes from this website.

Another discussion in Sociology-what is "deaf culture"?
 
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drphil said:
Is it a "truism" there is NO "deaf community" but an actualization of "local "persons" with supposedly "common interets" re "deafness" ?

It has been suggested AllDeaf.com is "somewhat a microcosm" of the "deaf community"?

Another discussion in Sociology-what is "deaf culture"?
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Well, the last meet I went to, about 98% of the people were DEAF, they couldnt hear nor speak and the ones who did speak you almost couldnt understand a word mostly as I can still hear some. I was introduced to everyone and introduced to some that could hear (hearies) but I think there were only 4 or 5 people that could actually hear. So, I dont think that I could hear some was an issue there, and religion.. no one asked nor did anyone state theirs so that wasnt an issue either. Im thinking because the member who invited us wasnt there they acted as they pleased, but was on best behavior when she was there? She said she didnt understand why they did that either but has had several complaints about it whenever she is gone. So, I just think that group was ... ummm, like a "Fake Friend" at certain times... I didnt feet comfortable after the second meet and just let it go, I know there are more around, I hear about them but cant find them. We have several people here in town, even our countertop lady from HOODS knows ASL and she has Deaf friends so we are talking and may possibly get invited to a few get togethers ( BBQ, Holiday parties...ect...) I am looking forwards to making a new circle of friends, its a whole new experience for me as my hearing is getting worst by the day and my audiologist says the next 2-4 years I will be completely Deaf.
 
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