Never taking your eyes off them

RoseRodent

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When I go anywhere with my young daughter (age 3 physically, prob more like 2 developmentally) I find I can never, ever take my eyes off her. I see other parents walking along with their kids and they look around, browse shopping and things, just glance over and check on the kids then back to what they are doing. I wondered today if this is because they can hear their children if they walk away, they can hear where they went to and they can call them back (daughter is hoh too).

I also wonder a wee bit if maybe it's cos of my wheelchair, my daughter can fit through gaps that I can't dream of, or disappear up some stairs where I can't go, and if she doesn't turn around I can't even get her attention to say come back. At least walking parents can fit through most of the same sized gaps as their kids can so they don't need to worry so much their child might go through a tiny gap between people and vanish, but I don't think it's that, I think it's the hearing thing.

Do you find it really tricky (unusually tricky) keeping track of your kids out in busy places due to hearing? Any tips? I put my radio aid transmitter on my daughter sometimes and it really, really helps, but I still have no idea where she is because she sounds the same if she is near or far.
 
I've seen some parents at the mall, who have tied a small rope around their child's waist and hooked it to themselves to keep their child close by.....especially good for kids who get excited and are hyper and who like to run!...Since ur in a wheelchair with a 3 yr old, I would highly suggest it!
 
Yeah, I think I didn't phrase it all that well, I don't really mind having to watch her all the time, but I'd like her to feel a little more freedom rather than mum breathing down her neck all the day long. Most kids don't have their parents within 6 feet of them 12 waking hours a day, and I think it's a bit crowding for her. She is very clingy to start with, I don't want to feed into that. Reins and things all have the problem of making her even more restricted.
 
RoseRodent said:
Yeah, I think I didn't phrase it all that well, I don't really mind having to watch her all the time, but I'd like her to feel a little more freedom rather than mum breathing down her neck all the day long. Most kids don't have their parents within 6 feet of them 12 waking hours a day, and I think it's a bit crowding for her. She is very clingy to start with, I don't want to feed into that. Reins and things all have the problem of making her even more restricted.
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Oh no... It is your job as a parent, to keep an eye on her to make sure no harm is done.

Supervision is much needed for a two or three year old. They are still considered toddlers. and you have to watch them constantly.

It only takes a split second for a child to be in a dangerous situation.

You are talking like your child is a teenager. She is still a baby and still needs mommy over her shoulders making sure she is safe.
 
Babyblue said:
Oh no... It is your job as a parent, to keep an eye on her to make sure no harm is done.

Supervision is much needed for a two or three year old. They are still considered toddlers. and you have to watch them constantly.

It only takes a split second for a child to be in a dangerous situation.

You are talking like your child is a teenager. She is still a baby and still needs mommy over her shoulders making sure she is safe.
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Babyblue said:
Oh no... It is your job as a parent, to keep an eye on her to make sure no harm is done.

Supervision is much needed for a two or three year old. They are still considered toddlers. and you have to watch them constantly.

It only takes a split second for a child to be in a dangerous situation.

You are talking like your child is a teenager. She is still a baby and still needs mommy over her shoulders making sure she is safe.
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Great post, but you forgot one thing. As the child gets older, you suppose to watch over them even more till they are down with their teen years. Even with a girl, need to make sure you have their BF shaking in their boots after they met you kinda watching over them type.
 
But don't most parents supervising a child on a slide or something sit on the bench in the park and watch from a distance their child playing? It's certainly the experience I am used to seeing when I go anywhere. The other mums are sitting around casually glancing up every now and then or reacting only if their child is hurt or about to go out through the door. I feel I am always following my daughter around the room whilst she plays. They all turn their backs on their children - am I over-protective or are they not doing enough? I don't feel I'd ever look the other way while my daughter is playing, they are so much more relaxed, and they react when they hear their child behind them squabbling or crying. I have to see it, not hear it, so I never, never turn away, even to rummage in my purse, yet they rarely look up! Is that a deaf thing?
 
I have twin girls and I had them on child leash backpacks until they turned 3. I was not able to run after them and I think freedom in a 2-3 yr old is very overrated, they need to be safe, not free. As they grow older they will learn to stay close to you. We actually just played in our backyard and did not go to the park very often, we only went to the park when their dad was with me. It is ok to be protective, and keep them where they are safe.
 
I rather watch them like a hawk than have them taken away because I'm deaf (people probably will think I'm neglecting them and report me to the social service if I did what hearing parents do)
 
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Your daughter is 3...and HOH...and ur in a wheelchair...so, no, it's not a "deaf thing" to watch ur daughter at all times.....If ur daughter fell down and got hurt, how are you gonna pick her up? Or run to her......And since ur deaf, if you turn ur head and become immersed in something else, you would not "see" ur daughter crying.....

Hearing mothers can hear their child....even if a child was among 10 other children playing, and fell down, the hearing mother's ears recognize her own child's voice & crying......

That's the advantage hearing mothers have over deaf mothers....no doubt about it!....

Deaf mothers tend to watch their child more closely than hearing mothers, because we can't hear them. It's normal and natural.
 
rockin'robin said:
Hearing mothers can hear their child....even if a child was among 10 other children playing, and fell down, the hearing mother's ears recognize her own child's voice & crying......

That's the advantage hearing mothers have over deaf mothers....no doubt about it!....

Deaf mothers tend to watch their child more closely than hearing mothers, because we can't hear them. It's normal and natural.
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That's exactly what I meant by "is it a deaf thing"? It does make a lot of sense of the whole question for sure.
 
Thanks, I am not after anything else to physically connect us together, I have a good selection of them and 99% are no use if you need to use your hands to push a wheelchair! But if anyone knows one of those alarm things that you attach one end to a child's clothing and one end to you and it beeps if they go out of a certain range of your location, but instead of beeping it will vibrate, I am very interested. It would be a nice piece of additional security now that she knows how to undo most clips.
 
RoseRodent said:
Thanks, I am not after anything else to physically connect us together, I have a good selection of them and 99% are no use if you need to use your hands to push a wheelchair! But if anyone knows one of those alarm things that you attach one end to a child's clothing and one end to you and it beeps if they go out of a certain range of your location, but instead of beeping it will vibrate, I am very interested. It would be a nice piece of additional security now that she knows how to undo most clips.
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That would be awesome to have. I'll see if I can find one for you.
 
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