I can't speak for other parents, but the reason I wanted to know why my child is deaf is because there is a high likelihood that with deafness comes other associated medical issues including such things as NF2, CHARGE, Waardenburg, Ménière's disease, Ushers, CAPD, and so on. And then there is a high incidence of learning needs as well (upwards of 40-60% of deaf children at schools for the deaf, depending upon your sources, have other diagnosed special needs from specific learning disabilities to ADHD) that parents of deaf kids need to be watching for. My child has a heart condition that I'd not have been aware of (until something happened) had we not gone looking high and low with uncommon testing for anything related to deafness. But now we (and others charged with her care) are prepared and vigilant for things we'd not normally expect. It's not that deafness causes these things, but whatever caused the hearing loss may have contributed to other medical issues your child is facing. Hearing loss maybe one of several symptoms of an underlying cause.
It's not an offense to the Deaf or not accepting that a child is deaf to look for cause and associated medical issues.