I can kind of see where she is going.. she'd like some kind of small community where autistics can easily get together in a physical sense much like the deaf clubs, deaf camps or whatever else out there.
I do agree that not all autistics are 'anti social' I have met one who is on the spectrum (19 now). He likes to hang with people but at times does have 'meltdowns' and doesn't want to be anywhere near people (don't want to go further into detail). I have known of one deaf girl with Asperger's but I haven't talked to her mother in many years so no idea what's going on.
My suggestion is to keep trying. It takes a lot and a few years maybe to get the word out about get-togethers, camps, conventions etc and for it to grow. I do hope you are able to do something like that, certainly would help to lessen the 'aloneness' feeling.
Then again even in today's world I would wager that A LOT of people even supposedly 'normal' healthy people still feel ridiculously alone in a vast sea of people.
