My son dont want to go!!

horselover61

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My son's school already started last week. First day no problem, second day he claimed that he was sick. And took him to the doctor. Third day, no problem, Yesterday he cried at the bus stop while waiting for the bus. He didnt want to go to school. And today he cried so hard and still didnt want to go to school. For some reason I dont know and my biggest fear is that his father may have convienced him that he is better off to live with the father and go to school near the father's house.

My knowledge of his father that he moved alot and moving the kids to different schools so many times. I have that experience with my stepkids in the past. Also I had a feeling that father is brainwashing him something like that. But he told me that he wish to live with his father and go to school there for one year and then move back with me for the next year and go to school near my home. I told him I cant do that cuz I dont want him to transfer too many school and it is not good for him.

I even go to school to find out what is wrong and why he is acting out. I will be leaving to his school to find out more and maybe if I can drive him to school in the morning and help out around the school would make him feel better. He loves to help out at school.

I will let you know and I am praying that the phrase will get by. I told him that he may have to transfer to another school since I am planning on buying a new home soon. Also he wanted to go back to private school cuz it was more challenge then the public school plus the kids are more nicer then the public school. So I will have to wait and see.
 
What made him want to move in with his father, is something going on at school that made him feel that way?...Have you check into this situation with the school on this?....

Something doesn't seem right here unless I'm missing on what really is making you son feel that this school where the father is living in will be best for him to enroll than the school he's attending at now...
 
Wondering if some kids were so mean to your son and made him not want to go to school there? Or teacher he does not like?
I am sorry to hear.
 
jazzy said:
Wondering if some kids were so mean to your son and made him not want to go to school there? Or teacher he does not like?
I am sorry to hear.
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Yeah, I am wondering if maybe he is getting picked on by other kids? That can make a kid cry and not want to go to school.
 
Yeah, I'm wondering the same thing too here, poor kid :(
 
What i think you and your son's father should work things out about your son's future! i mean that you and your sons' father SHOULD NOT discus about the relationship, you and your sons father should discuss about son's future what both of two can provided your son best interested in the future and makes your son happy life. Both of two you and your son's father should give good postive for your son's life. that would help your son would be happy and comfortable. no what matter your son still love you and their father.

I have some questions for you that everyone can understand you better.

1) how old your son?

2) who is full cusdoy of the boy?

3) did you talk to son why he was crying?

4) is your son deaf or hearing?

5) what did Dr say about your son?

6) do you have prove that your son's father gave him a brainwash?




1) moving around homes alot which isnt best interested in your son! Your son needs to have a good home and good stable.

2) I agreeded with you about your son went to many diffrent school isnt good for him. That is really very confused and unstable!


IMO 1) maybe your son misses his friends at the school ?
2) Maybe your son is uncomfortable going to the school ?
3) Maybe your son isnt feeling so well?
4) Maybe you can take your son to see counselling?
5) maybe your son has miss something what he needs for the school?

HTH
 
Whoaaaaaaaaaaa sorry I didnt responded soon enough. Yesterday I took him to school and then I spoke to his teacher and I was told that he does have alot of friends. Ok no problem there. Hummmmmmmm then the old teacher from last year was there and hear everything. She said something about my son helping out around the school and then I told the new teacher to let him help out and that what he love to do. After school he was doing good and say that he enjoyed helping out the teacher. I asked him if that what he wanted to do then I can drop him off earlier to help out the teacher. I would like that.

He is 10 yrs old.

As for being brainwashed, I was there when the father does that to his kids from the previous marriage. Also I have picked up the clue from my son telling me this and that. So I know how his father is. I dont trust him.


I have physical custoday but share legal custody if anyone know what that mean. It mean that he lives with me and share legal meaning share the information about the school, doctor and hospital. But most of the time I dont do that just the medical stuffs just about it.

He said that he is feeling a little better each day and I am glad to hear that. He have a funny feeling and wasnt feeling right just a week before the school start but it is going away little by little.
 
I'm just glad to hear that he's feeling a bit better today and knowing he enjoy school, I know what it like to have father brainwashing the children, been there myself...Hang in there sweetie :hug:
 
Seattle.guy said:
Maybe your son is being bullied in his school...
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I assume believe...

I'm not alone... My little son got new school couple days ago and got bullied twice times a day... I went over and talked w/school prinpcal deal with issues bullies strike my son which he's new student. I'm not happy.. If I hear my son's word and will processing file complaint formal the letter to school and Education board of commisson Dept. All School must requires use "HAND OFF major of course" which it's very good education 'bout this details.

Three years ago, My two youngest children enrolled the school and kept result contuine attack by bullied.. because of parent are deaf.. I'm not pleasant..
I'm not allow let them bullied to my son any kinds strikes!

I hope Horselover's son can work out w/you and talk sort it out why he doesn't want to go school becz of bullies ? Can you ask your son , Is that related bullies? If your son say yes.. you can apporch your son's school and talk out w/school office about seriouis matter best interest your son's welfare.

Hope to hear all your situation goes out smooth.
 
It is turn out that he wanted to go back to school asap even it the school are done for the day. :eek: What he like about is helping the chores around the school and helping out with the staffs. He enjoyed that alot. He loves to help out so I told them to let him.

No it is not bullies which it was on my mind and glad it wasn't. Whewwwwwww!!!

He is looking forward to go to school every day and love to go to school early as 7:30 instead of 8:15 am. :giggle:
 
horselover61 said:
It is turn out that he wanted to go back to school asap even it the school are done for the day. :eek: What he like about is helping the chores around the school and helping out with the staffs. He enjoyed that alot. He loves to help out so I told them to let him.

No it is not bullies which it was on my mind and glad it wasn't. Whewwwwwww!!!

He is looking forward to go to school every day and love to go to school early as 7:30 instead of 8:15 am. :giggle:
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Maybe just starting school jitters? Anyhow, sounds like he recovered from it quickly :)
 
Going from so many different schools. I can understand why he'd get the jitters. Poor guy:aw:
 
Yes I´m agree with some of posts here that it´s no good for boy to keep on change school and move to different states all the time... It confused him...
He don´t know what really he wants.


I´m with Duncan´s post mostly. Its about your son´s interest.

Good luck and keep up with him... :thumb:
 
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