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CrzyMeg

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i like to think of myself as the kind of man who will go above and beyond to treat a woman right. so why is it that a man like me gets the shaft in favor of someone less than desirable? why are women so attracted to "bad boys?"

my friend want to know why? i couldnt answer it.
 
He apparently has not met right women yet - there are many of us who do love nice boys - bad boys may be more exciting - theyre usually very assertive, cocky and full of confidence which attracts women - but it doesnt mean I want one of them - I prefer a nice boy and nice boys do win in the end.
 
Gemma said:
He apparently has not met right women yet - there are many of us who do love nice boys - bad boys may be more exciting - theyre usually very assertive, cocky and full of confidence which attracts women - but it doesnt mean I want one of them - I prefer a nice boy and nice boys do win in the end.
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Thank you. He was really upset in couple weeks. so i am trying to help him out as best i can, Thank you :ty::ty:
 
Well it's not really the "bad boy" attitude they're attracted with. I think that can be confusing and misleading. "Bad Boy" attitude - a criminal behavior? reckless? jerk? I don't think any women wants to be with a jerk.

I would say - they like confident, assertive men with goals and discipline such as taking care of their hygiene, clothes, and body (not to the metrosexual level). The "too-nice" guy is viewed as weak and unable to take charge of anything. They like to have a man in charge. That can PROBABLY be viewed as a "bad boy" but it's really a man in charge which means you gotta be an asshole sometimes.

the "too-nice" guy are lacking in a few important, desirable departments such as body, appearance, and the mentality. They may be childish/immatured... not too social when meeting with her friends (yes woman likes to be impressed by her man in front of her friends)... not wanting to change themselves to better themselves... and.. sadly - not to sound superficial but... nobody wants to be seen with weak/unkempt guys. and who wants to see their guy being walked over by somebody else? It's depressing.

Meg - if your friend's being upset for a couple weeks... then tell him to stfu and be a man. lose that emotional baggage FAST cuz nobody wants it. :cool2:

Emotional baggage only gets him a good female friend, not a gf. :cool2:
 
My husband is a nice guy. My daughter's husband is a nice guy.

Maybe there is something else that women don't like about your friend and he just can't see what it is.
 
Bottesini said:
My husband is a nice guy. My daughter's husband is a nice guy.

Maybe there is something else that women don't like about your friend and he just can't see what it is.
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:thumb: I wonder.... would you go out with a TOO-NICE guy? I mean SO-OVERLY-TOO-NICE guy? :hmm:
 
CrzyMeg said:
i like to think of myself as the kind of man who will go above and beyond to treat a woman right. so why is it that a man like me gets the shaft in favor of someone less than desirable? why are women so attracted to "bad boys?"

my friend want to know why? i couldnt answer it.
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Depend on where those women came from, home, familiy and how thier daddy raised them. Many of them came from dysfuction families and they tend to ended up with men alike their fathers. Strange I had many men but I picked my husband who is so alike my father.
 
Jiro said:
:thumb: I wonder.... would you go out with a TOO-NICE guy? I mean SO-OVERLY-TOO-NICE guy? :hmm:
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Maybe not. I guess my husband is tough and people won't walk all over us. So you mean like a pushover type?

Right I would not want that.
 
jazzy said:
yes my husband was one of them. :) Many women left him for bad boys but not me.
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:thumb: My comment was for general population, not all... just so you know. :cool2:
 
Bottesini said:
Maybe not. I guess my husband is tough and people won't walk all over us. So you mean like a pushover type?

Right I would not want that.
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not the JERK type but just a good man with right attitude.... just like your husband.
 
It goes both way - men like bad girls too - I think many (both women/men) are drawn to excitement - bad girls/boys are full of confidence, adventures, dramas and can be unpredictable. Sure I had a few bad boys in my life but all they did was create chaos.

I would be really careful if I use the word nice though - I am not attracted to "toooooo nice" men because it makes me suspect that they dont have their own opinions or/and identities therefore become too willing to fit into my lifestyle like a chameleon that I lose interest quickly as I prefer some bearable friction between us to make it exciting and full of chemistry. Afterall the saying that the making up is the best part is very true! ;)

For example I have heard this "Whatever you want" on dates with these above mentioned toooo nice men - they dont take much charge in dates so I lose interest quickly. It is not because they are being nice it is because they need to speak up too - maybe they are afraid that I would not like htem but quite the contrary I would if they are more assertive in many areas. They dont have to be pushover but theyd ont have to be pushy either.
 
Bad boys do things that Girls don't think of and that turns them on as it is an intelligence praise and Bad boys take risks to do things for their girls because that's love.
 
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