I was super lucky with mine. I had my surgery November 7. Checked in at 6 am and checked out at noon. In between was waiting and 4 hours of surgery. Mine took so long because they found ossification in my cochlea (meningitis as a baby). I didn't have a sore throat, but my jaw hurt for days. The bandage was painful, but that was due to the scrunched ear lobe under it. I wasn't dizzy at all, which was amazing since I have meneire's disease and hadn't been able to walk a straight line in a few years. I was wide awake and ready to go after surgery (excellent cocktail they gave me out in under three minutes and awake and aware just as fast). I was hungry on the way home and opted for french fries and iced tea. Never got sick, or anything. I went off the pain meds the second day and just used tylenol, regular strength. My hubby waited on me the first day, but after that, I pretty much took on normal duties though I did take a lot of naps that first week. I had dissolving stitches and was able to shower on shower the second day, shampoo the third. If you daughter isn't able to shampoo until a week or so later, check into rinse free shampoos and conditioners. I found one brand online called No Rinse (fancy that) and it is recommended by hospitals. I learned a lot from the link ncff07 sent you. The recliner was a must for me, it cut down on my rolling on my implant, so I slept better. It forced me to sleep more peacefully.
I ate what I wanted and scrambled eggs were my favorite. Ice cream tasted good, so I had that too, and mashed potatoes.