Mom Makes Daughter Stand on Street Corner

No, I'm not agree to punish a girl to the public because it could damage girl's emotional. This is a psychological abuse what mother did to her daughter.

A girl need her parent's support, not punishment.

I would focus my child to find out why she/he has the problem with education and school...etc and then support her/him because it belongs good patience.

It's hard to beleive that girl's education goes improve after that happened - it look like that mother doesn't bother to focus a girl's feeling.

I would not ban sports for my children because I know sports are good for them.
 
well I think that punishment would be good but that mother picked bad place to put her daughter on stand on the busiest dangerous hwy corner. Maybe should put her at busy food store something like that with supervising. It better than harsh punishment such as phyical abuse. As you see that girl is 14 years old and that is teenager. IT is very difficult to punish a teenager. Most of times they may havent learn the lesson. I am sure that mother try other methods before came up with this. I dont think it would harm her over the embrassment and once she learn her lesson she may work harder to improve the grades so she dont have to go through that lesson again. IT same with boot camp for kids they do something embrassing or do the hard work if they dont obey the counselor.
 
Liebling:-))) said:
...I would not ban sports for my children because I know sports are good for them.
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Most schools require that students maintain a certain minimum grade point average and attendance record to be allowed to participate in school sports.

In previous threads you were against corporal punishment and said that parents should use other methods to discipline their children. Well, that is exactly what that mom is doing. She is using a creative, non-corporal, method of discipline.
 
Reba said:
Most schools require that students maintain a certain minimum grade point average and attendance record to be allowed to participate in school sports.
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My children play sport after end of their lessons. They made their homeworks at home. I would grounded my children for not play video games, go out with mates or watch on TV except sports if they are lazy to learn anything.

Remember that some of children have problem with their education. Why should punish them when they have problem to learn anything? No, they need my support if they have problem to learn anything.

In previous threads you were against corporal punishment and said that parents should use other methods to discipline their children. Well, that is exactly what that mom is doing. She is using a creative, non-corporal, method of discipline.
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Yes, I'm against corporal punishment and use method to disciplinie children but public?

Punish children should be private, not to the public.
 
It seem that the teenager turn out in a good way meaning she started taking her homework seriously and improving her grades....I personally think the mother did as she thought by teaching her daug a lesson, as Shiva said above it is hard to punish a teenager which I agree because I have a 15 years old son myself so I know what it like to have a teenager and sometimes they don't listen or they don't do well in school, you got to do what you think it's best as a parents to do whatever you can that will teach your teenager child a lesson...

Every parents has their way of discipline their children as long as they don't abuse them, then I'm okay with it.....
 
Liebling:-))) said:
Punish children should be private, not to the public.
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Not always Liebling, sometimes you got to do it in public to teach your child a lesson, I know I wouldn't myself but it doesn't mean this mother did the wrong thing, she did what she thought it was best in order to get her teenager daug to improve her grades in school otherwise, she would keep failing and maybe drop out of school...One day her daug will look back at this and thank her mom for doing all she can to keep her daug in school and keep her grades up too!
 
Shiva said:
well I think that punishment would be good but that mother picked bad place to put her daughter on stand on the busiest dangerous hwy corner. Maybe should put her at busy food store something like that with supervising. It better than harsh punishment such as phyical abuse. As you see that girl is 14 years old and that is teenager. IT is very difficult to punish a teenager. Most of times they may havent learn the lesson. I am sure that mother try other methods before came up with this. I dont think it would harm her over the embrassment and once she learn her lesson she may work harder to improve the grades so she dont have to go through that lesson again. IT same with boot camp for kids they do something embrassing or do the hard work if they dont obey the counselor.
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I disagree to this.

She made Coretha stand at a busy Oklahoma City intersection Nov. 4 with a cardboard sign that read: "I don't do my homework and I act up in school, so my parents are preparing me for my future. Will work for food."
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***goose pump***

Do something with children belong private, not to the public... I can image how a girl feeling... Oh dear...
 
I've seen TV likely Maury Povich, Montel, Jenny Jones and other t.v. talk show about the displince teenagers... Parent are fusterate their child not even smarten up.. send to their own displince likely around the corner street or other kinds.. and also can send their child goes to boot camp too.

My opnion is sound good for their child needs smarten up. Some what agreed yes but otherwise not put the child "abuse-strictly pyschaily(sp)" stronger..
I heard .. does pretty improved their child lot and better grades too..

I wish I could have my older son part of this but canada law not allowed like this..
I have to different way method displince.. Seems works.. likely lose their privallages (weak spot).
 
GalaxyAngel said:
but canada law not allowed like this..
I have to different way method displince.. Seems works.. likely lose their privallages (weak spot).
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Yes, it´s same with here in Germany too.

Yes there´re form of discipline to discipline the children. Some works and don´t. I keep trying until it works then I will know then...

I grounded my children. I rather to let my children to read good book, not comic or go sport than let them use video games, TV and go out with mates. They loves video games, computer & favorite program on the TV, go out with mates that´s why I use them for ground. During ground, we play Monlopoly games together, read a good book, chat/talk with them and accompany children to sport and watch them until they are finish then bring them back to home (my children don´t like us accompany them to sport). Without ground, I let my children to ride their bicycle to sport hall with their mates or drop them off to sport hall.
 
Mmmm.. I don't think that kind of punishment is appropriate. I would rather discuss with her, make sure she does her homework, cut back tv hours, send her to after school tutorings, etc... rather than to embarrass her.
 
:eek: That's embrassing for her to be doing it in public...can't she puish her daugther in private? And find other methods? It can damange her emtionally and mentally in the future...I agree with everything Liebieg says.
 
I agree with this mother. It's called "Tough Love".........
 
my mom did something like this when i was little... when i was fighting wth her i somehow got angry enough to call her "bitch" i must be like 12 years old or so.. and mom went to get a shirt and it said "i called my mom a bitch because i am too lazy to do my homework" and made me wear it then took me to mall. she even gave me 20 bucks to me and told me to buy anything i want.. she followed me all over ... no store will give me anything i want to buy. NONE so after that experience i respected my mom even more and never called her names. and it kinda stays with me i cant really insult anybody in their faces and when i do i always feel soooo guilty.

the point is... that mother did everything she could and if it works.. well.. it works.

i think tough love is best way when it comes to rebelious teendagers (my opinion)
 
I think this was okay to me. The mother was THERE and she was trying to teach her the hard way to get her to learn the lesson. The mother was THERE, and I think it was okay to me, and now the daughter learned her lesson and humilated and she acted out and brought up good grades and everything.

I remember my mother kicked me out the house when I lied to her, and brought home a F in report card on Biology and she threw fit. She told me to get out the house and start looking for place to stay. She said, if I bring my grades up in A and B, she will let me stay home.. If I bring home C, D, or F she will kick me out the house and I have to look for a place of my own. Now I have reached 3.8 GPA in high school and then I went away to college for one year and I had no desire for school, and had a long talk with my mom that I want to work instead of study, so she let me take a break from college and found 3 jobs and making money for myself before I got married (the first one). I would do the same thing with my son when he get in high school. Show the hard way to become a better person with good brain.
 
SpiceHD said:
my mom did something like this when i was little... when i was fighting wth her i somehow got angry enough to call her "bitch" i must be like 12 years old or so.. and mom went to get a shirt and it said "i called my mom a bitch because i am too lazy to do my homework" and made me wear it then took me to mall. she even gave me 20 bucks to me and told me to buy anything i want.. she followed me all over ... no store will give me anything i want to buy. NONE so after that experience i respected my mom even more and never called her names. and it kinda stays with me i cant really insult anybody in their faces and when i do i always feel soooo guilty.

the point is... that mother did everything she could and if it works.. well.. it works.

i think tough love is best way when it comes to rebelious teendagers (my opinion)
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Well said. :)
 
Perhaps by this point, the mother tried many other strategies and is doing this one and I am cool with that. The mother STAYED right there with her daughter......
 
I agree with Tousi. It's a tough lesson for this girl, but she learned pretty quickly once she got the taste of real punishment. Listen to the boss. ;)

SpiceHD, *wow* good one!
 
EyesBlueDeaf said:
Mmmm.. I don't think that kind of punishment is appropriate. I would rather discuss with her, make sure she does her homework, cut back tv hours, send her to after school tutorings, etc... rather than to embarrass her.
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WildKaTReSS
That's embrassing for her to be doing it in public...can't she puish her daugther in private? And find other methods? It can damange her emtionally and mentally in the future...I agree with everything Liebieg says.
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EXACTLY... I´m agree with you both.

Yes, we (parents) are supposing to teach our children to value their mistakes instead of being ashamed of them or punish them or to embarrass them to public for the mistakes what they made. We (parents) should have good patience. We focus or attend our children´s feeling first, reassuring them if they are anxious or frightened.
 
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