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I am deaf my husband is hearing and is in rehab, is done with it. We had been separated two years, he reached out to me, I went to visit with him. We spoke about "divorce" we both know it is wrong to divorce and we still love each other.... i'm at a loss as to what to do...give him another chance, providing that he will go thru DEAF counseling with me??? I am terrified to take that one more step further...

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If you both were not happy together , I see nothing wrong with getting a divorce . You could try going marriage counseling a few time yourself and then decide if want to go with your ex husband. I know it's hard getting a
divorce and sorry you had to go through one and good luck with whatever you decide to do.
 
hippiemomma said:
I am deaf my husband is hearing and is in rehab, is done with it. We had been separated two years, he reached out to me, I went to visit with him. We spoke about "divorce" we both know it is wrong to divorce and we still love each other.... i'm at a loss as to what to do...give him another chance, providing that he will go thru DEAF counseling with me??? I am terrified to take that one more step further...

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I think only you can answer that question as it is your life and we do not know you or your husband. Just give it some thought and counseling is always worth a try. Wishing you all the best with your choice.
 
I agree with the marriage counseling that would help you and your husband to talk about marriage issues and his drug or alcohol problem. It is good to open up and air out what is bothering in your marriage. Being married is not a bed of roses. It take two heads to make the relationship or marriage to work so it is not easy. This counseling would help you, both, to decide if you both want to stay in the marriage or not. The marriage counselor will help you to make that decision. It is you and husband to decide. I wish you good luck on trying to make decision on your marriage. :)
 
Only You know if your marriage is worth saving. Drug , alcohol and domestic violence, along with $$ is the main reason for divorces. You know his history and if he is sincere or not. However, many drug and alcohol addicts relapse time and time again. If he's been clean for 2 years, then maybe it's a good chance to reunite and try to save the marriage.
 
I wish I could help.... But it's also VERY difficult dealing with someone who is an addict. Is he OK besides the addiction issues? That might be doable.... but even the most amazing person in the world can turn into a completely different person on drugs.
 
deafdyke said:
I wish I could help.... But it's also VERY difficult dealing with someone who is an addict. Is he OK besides the addiction issues? That might be doable.... but even the most amazing person in the world can turn into a completely different person on drugs.
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They ARE a completely different person when they are on drugs...and the more they do drugs, they become like a stranger.....The drug of their choice is all they think about...not caring who they steal or hurt...the drug comes first. Their children, even their families mean nothing once the drug takes hold over them....Have been there and done that with a drug addict....It's not easy, and they most times they will Relapse, time and time again.
 
Try and remember, why in the first place, you decide to get marry each other.
 
rockin'robin said:
They ARE a completely different person when they are on drugs...and the more they do drugs, they become like a stranger.....The drug of their choice is all they think about...not caring who they steal or hurt...the drug comes first. Their children, even their families mean nothing once the drug takes hold over them....Have been there and done that with a drug addict....It's not easy, and they most times they will Relapse, time and time again.
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You're not kidding. .... I think a lot of people think "Oh they can survive with my love!" Oh boy.... If there are active addict issues.....they're not exactly healthy to have a relationship with.
 
You know... after thinking about it.....I think he might be trying to suck you back in so he might be able to use you again. I would divorce him. He does need support, but the thing is.......he probably will use you again. I don't know where he can find his support......but the risk of being used again......And let me guess.... you guys separated b/c of the drug problems right?
 
don't flog dead horse nothing wrong with divorce,if you had to ask question then deep in your heart you know answer otherwise you not ask
 
I think it's b/c you feel bad for him......It's so tough... You want to be there for him, and maybe help him get through this....but at the same time you don't want to get sucked into the bad stuff again right?
 
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