Love is complicated.

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We both left our exes for eachother. We have a strong intense feelings for eachother, and we have adapt this into something more complicated to play "hard-to-get"

Our exes works for the same company which we both are currently working for.

We never have any type of discussion that we are seeing eachother, or whatever. He has been telling people that we are courting, and his brother have an issues with me.

We both have been very supportive with each other's decision makings, dreams, and goals.

the problem here, why he wasn't able to tell me that we both are courting, its pretty awkward when people approached to me sand said congratulations that you guys are seeing eachother.

Yesterday, I gave him a hell by giving him a silence treatment because he said something out from his mouth and didn't meant it. He couldn't remember what he said out of his mouth. He wailed to my father, and told him that "we are in this relationship, and I do not like to see her upset, or mad."

this is the most frustrating part why he can't be blunt with me that "we are seeing eachother, or in courting, or in this relationship.."


he's a CODA, and I'm deaf.

anyways, like i mention earlier, that our feelings is pretty much very intense, which it makes more difficult for us to be able to communicate about this directly, in stead, when we drive to different places, he would turn the music on, and start sign the songs, when he does that, he mixed with his words and music lyrics and signs to me.

:( why he does do that....
 
he likes to embarrass me all the times by telling this to his brother, and my father.

oh she were so cute last night wearing leopard pant which have bright neon pink color which attract my eyes.
oh she were so cute last night sleeping on the couch with the santa clause shoes.


-oh you look cute when you just woke up.
-thank you for folding my clothes.

and he likes to piss me off all the times as well

-stop trying to be an animal by wearing leopard jacket, and leopard thong.
-you can't even take care of your dogs just like the way how you take care of me.


those are just the example that he said, he has said much more than that anyways.
 
We both left our exes for eachother. We have a strong intense feelings for eachother, and we have adapt this into something more complicated to play "hard-to-get"

Our exes works for the same company which we both are currently working for.

We never have any type of discussion that we are seeing eachother, or whatever. He has been telling people that we are courting, and his brother have an issues with me.

We both have been very supportive with each other's decision makings, dreams, and goals.

the problem here, why he wasn't able to tell me that we both are courting, its pretty awkward when people approached to me sand said congratulations that you guys are seeing eachother.

Yesterday, I gave him a hell by giving him a silence treatment because he said something out from his mouth and didn't meant it. He couldn't remember what he said out of his mouth. He wailed to my father, and told him that "we are in this relationship, and I do not like to see her upset, or mad."

this is the most frustrating part why he can't be blunt with me that "we are seeing eachother, or in courting, or in this relationship.."


he's a CODA, and I'm deaf.

anyways, like i mention earlier, that our feelings is pretty much very intense, which it makes more difficult for us to be able to communicate about this directly, in stead, when we drive to different places, he would turn the music on, and start sign the songs, when he does that, he mixed with his words and music lyrics and signs to me.

:( why he does do that....

"Yesterday, I gave him a hell by giving him a silence treatment because he said something out from his mouth and didn't meant it. " Giving someone hell
by not talking to him is strange way of "giving them Hell." It sound like you both should see someone to help you both works things out as you both seem to have a problem expressing how you really feel. It is not good to hold in your anger or frustration , you may end saying somethings that can't be taken back.
 
Just get a car with turbocharged engine. Take off and feel it vroom. Tell your ex that he cannot ride in it. It's for exclusive people in your life. He is not one of them. Did I mention that turbo is cool!!! Live your life.
 
So talking didn't get through to him? Tiime for another approach. Let him see what you are perceiving from his actions, go to his mom and sisters (or whoever, females preferred here) and tell them what you think of him in his matching zebra skivies - make sure he sees it. Some people don't realize what they're doing until it happens to them. Have plan B on hand to contain defensive backlash.
 
We both left our exes for eachother....
Any relationship based on infidelity is going to be "complicated." How can you trust each other when you both know that you are each cheaters? Do you really expect a deep, long-term relationship will result from unfaithfulness?

You seriously want people to help you with your hanky panky? Do you really expect other family members to cheerfully aid and assist you in this destructive behavior? :roll:
 
Just get a car with turbocharged engine. Take off and feel it vroom. Tell your ex that he cannot ride in it. It's for exclusive people in your life. He is not one of them. Did I mention that turbo is cool!!! Live your life.[


been in similar situations myself,take that advice
 
Love can only be experienced by doing something for another person. In other words, love is not what you "feel" for someone but rather what you do for them.
 
What is wrong with someone saying "You look cute when you wake up?" or "Thank you for folding my clothes?" Those are nice things...??? I'm totally confused on that one. My husband tells me how beautiful I am when I wake up in the mornings. And while I think I look like hell, he means it! Love it when he compliments me or thanks me for something.

Did I totally misunderstand what she was saying?
 
What is wrong with someone saying "You look cute when you wake up?" or "Thank you for folding my clothes?" Those are nice things...??? I'm totally confused on that one. My husband tells me how beautiful I am when I wake up in the mornings. And while I think I look like hell, he means it! Love it when he compliments me or thanks me for something.

Did I totally misunderstand what she was saying?

Above in bold - That's love.
 
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