Long distance relationship

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Some of them clicks. Some of them does not.

I don't have the highest self esteem in the world. Sometimes, I wonder why I would want to invest in a long distance relationship. I often think to myself that if I was smart, I would be able to find someone locally. I would have long distance relationship, but it wouldn't make me smart. It would make me sad wondering why I've not found anyone locally. Anyone of you who are in or were in one knows what it may take to be in one.

If anyone of you can see benefits of a long distance relationship, great for you. I know some of my friends who have had success with them. It's just not in cards for me.

It would be great if other people want to talk about the good and bad of long distance relationship to make me feel better. I'm interested in your experience or experience of people you know. I'm not looking for online stories that you read about, but rather your own stories.

Thank you for reading.
 
I was in one once. I met him while I was out of town. We just liked each other a whole lot, in many ways a rare match (not perfect, or maybe we'd still be together, I don't know). So anyway, it was just worth it. I don't often meet anyone I like that much, so I was willing to travel to see him (some of the time he would travel to see me). We used the phone alot. It lasted 5 years. I'm glad we got that time.
 
I question long distance relationship now

I was in a long-distance relationship and frankly it didn't help me at all. When I was visiting him, whoa I didn't realize there were more to the story by who he really is. I thought I know him well enough through texting but nope, I was disappointed how that went but it's a good thing that there are still more red flags in a long-distance relationship about him. Well, I gave up trying to stay in touch because he was not putting the effort to stay in touch. If he stays in touch everyday by texting , that will help keeping the relationship from dwindling. I rather meet someone locally because it's safer to get to know someone in and out on a daily basis. With a long-distance relationship, there are a lot of unknowns while he and I are apart. I would not try it again. I would want to feel 100% comfortable wîth him on a daily basis or as much as possible locally. Feel free to ask me any questions anytime- Snowavalanche
 
it depends what sort of relationship and at some point one of you make discion to move if you want sexual relationship but it good way get deep friendship.derek dont be intense looking for someone lighten up let them see your personality cos reading your post you seem kind careing man..word of advice keep ferret down pants and stick turbo in garage
 
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He didn't want to visit me, made me think he wasn't serious about me. If you or her decide to relocate all power to you. Everyone is different it may or may not work out. If you are into doing something new and talk to this person LD go for it. I hope it works out for you.
 
Long-distance relationships........

I've had two, and am now married to one of them. This time spent apart can be an issue, but Skype, video-calling etc can make it easier.

I think the hardest part (for me certainly) was deciding whether I loved this girl enough to leave my family, friends and career behind, move all the way around the world and start again from scratch.
 
LDR is not for everyone.. it takes a lot of commitment and trust to know what both are doing on their end. If there is video chat and texting communication that makes the relationship much easier than the old school telephone calls. You could thank the technology we have today.

Some can take it, some don't. It's never easy and if it's worth the love and money to spend to travel and the happiness is important. Some people are lucky, some don't it just takes two to tango, make it work together and being loyal to each other.
 
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Derek, just be careful everyone can post experiences and advice and take it to heart if this is something you want to deal with. It would be up to you and the person to want to make it workout and commit. Commitment is a big word.

I like to add whatever your motives are be up front if you are not serious and just want to be friends.
 
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