It's terrible that he controlled you. That's not nice. He wanted to be in the power of the family or he might have had an affair and she has his phone number - who knows. I had a term paper when I was in college about the power between a father and mother. Let's go back what I said that it would be nice for you to have a new boyfriend that let you to be more flexible since you have TJ. Of course, I did not want to tell you what to do with your life. I thought of it because it reminds me of my mother and her boyfriend, and they are very happy now. She does not want to get another married because of the stress which is not fair, and she had a terrible divorce. Take your time and heal yourself first. Let your mother support you. Just be happy with TJ. Someday, you might want to find a nice boyfriend. I understand how hard it is, and you will feel better in a few months or less. I am not your therapist, and wish you a good luck.
