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I set up the title for an attention-grabber - and it caught your attention, didn't it?

I have been reading so many threads, posts and PMs about leaving, quitting, fookin off, blah, blah...in other words, terminating their membership in AllDeaf.

Why?

I suspect egoism...but it seems to be simply put as...temper tantrums.

You all gotta understand ... there will always be members, posts and/or threads that WILL make you upset, set you off, make you grind your teeth, and so forth...and there WILL be members that will FLAME you in whatever form they can do to make you upset and make you FLAME them back. Why? In the end, it's all a game.

I've NEVER said that I will quit AD for good, but I've SAID that I am taking a short break...it's to gather my scattered wits, douse cold water on my emotions, and to dunk my hot head in a bucket full of ice. Usually after a few days, a couple weeks, maybe even a month, I usually feel better about coming back to AD and participating in whatever is going on...but I do NOT see a need in leaving AD over a few sore points...

Put simply, yeah, your feelings gonna get hurt, you gonna feel violated, you gonna feel that you got a grievance, well...SO WHAT? AllDeaf is a forum where you can voice your opinions, pour your feelings, use as a tool to get information across, and so forth...but ultimately, for your information, everyone else who reads your words as it is, will usually respond in THEIR OWN WORDS...you cannot expect everyone to see it from your point of view, your perspective, your perception of what is going on...they will have VERY different points of view, perceptions, perpectives...and you can take it as you like, or with a lump or two of sugar in your tea.

So go ahead, make threads and announce that there are some people that cannot voice anything in those threads...it's not gonna work. Put simply, there were three threads that we were told not to speak up, because we did not fall in that category that could speak up. Yes, Alex spoke up and told us to respect that wish...of course, it didnt work. Since when do we ever listen to anyone in authority???? Come on. If they got questions, just answer them or refer them to someone else...don't flame those people in the posts, other threads, shout favortism, cuss them out in PMs, stalk them in AIMs...it's not gonna work. It will create hard feelings among members, and eventually, friendships.

All in all, if you want to leave AllDeaf, by all means, do so...but do not expect EVERYONE to beg you to stay. Some will say, oh please stay! Some will say, go ahead and leave, some will say do as you want to but the majority will just not say anything. Why?

Because...for one thing...you will probably come back, which the majority do so. Some of you may leave for good, and you will soon all be forgotten, except for a FEW loyal few.

So, go ahead and have your temper tantrum, go ahead and get your feelings hurt, go ahead and say that you are leaving AD. The majority will not say anything. It's that simple.

AllDeaf was formed so that we could speak up ~ and by golly, we gonna speak up!!!!

*whistling* With that, I'm gonna step off the over-used soapbox, put it up against the wall for the next speaker with an agenda, and steal a banana martini from Lev and just sit with my feet in the heated pool.

Smiles.
 
DreamDeaf said:
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*whistling* With that, I'm gonna step off the over-used soapbox, put it up against the wall for the next speaker with an agenda, and steal a banana martini from Lev and just sit with my feet in the heated pool.

Smiles.
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Nice vent. As for myself, I will put one foot in boiling water and the other in ice water. As Lev would inform you, that makes you feel average.
Cackling, messing with Lev now.
 
:gpost: uh uh!!! i agree with u DD! if someone get piss off and need take break for 2 or 3 days or one week then come back ad than quit... yea u go girl! :ily:
 
Well said... oakley and I couldn't argue with ur statements... :wtg:
 
I agree DreamDeaf :hug:


I've apology a few members if I was wrong, But I am not going to apology for something I did not do, like being accused of something that they think was what I have done or did. It sadden me that some of us are falling apart, It was never like this before. Hope those would find peace within themselves and move forward to a fresh start. :grouphug:
 
A very well written and constructive point of view--

Generally it would do anyone the benefit of taking whatever time it is needed to quash flaming tempers, etc. so then the posts created will come across better with calmer tones and less offensive to others.

Keeping the peace and reconsidering just how a certain action is deemed worthy and appropriate for others to 'see'...maintaining integrity and a way of being able to get along with others even to a point where we can each agree to disagree in a mature way....although, everyone is entitled to do however one feels despite if others think differently as long as it is maintained and within the 'rules' of AD....For those who like to announce their departure from AD, that's up to them whether it will work or not...the bottom line, if a member decides to leave because of being disgusted, angered, upset, etc., I believe that isn't always a very good excuse for having to leave when generally things will somewhat change later or certain situations can be ironed out, being wrinkled-free to the point of having previous emotions subdued...it's like there will always be rainy days, but surely, there will be SUNNY days as well...in most cases, there are much more sunny days! :thumb:

Good attention-grabbin' thread DD! ;)
 
DreamDeaf said:
I set up the title for an attention-grabber - and it caught your attention, didn't it?

I have been reading so many threads, posts and PMs about leaving, quitting, fookin off, blah, blah...in other words, terminating their membership in AllDeaf.

Why?

I suspect egoism...but it seems to be simply put as...temper tantrums.

You all gotta understand ... there will always be members, posts and/or threads that WILL make you upset, set you off, make you grind your teeth, and so forth...and there WILL be members that will FLAME you in whatever form they can do to make you upset and make you FLAME them back. Why? In the end, it's all a game.

I've NEVER said that I will quit AD for good, but I've SAID that I am taking a short break...it's to gather my scattered wits, douse cold water on my emotions, and to dunk my hot head in a bucket full of ice. Usually after a few days, a couple weeks, maybe even a month, I usually feel better about coming back to AD and participating in whatever is going on...but I do NOT see a need in leaving AD over a few sore points...

Put simply, yeah, your feelings gonna get hurt, you gonna feel violated, you gonna feel that you got a grievance, well...SO WHAT? AllDeaf is a forum where you can voice your opinions, pour your feelings, use as a tool to get information across, and so forth...but ultimately, for your information, everyone else who reads your words as it is, will usually respond in THEIR OWN WORDS...you cannot expect everyone to see it from your point of view, your perspective, your perception of what is going on...they will have VERY different points of view, perceptions, perpectives...and you can take it as you like, or with a lump or two of sugar in your tea.

So go ahead, make threads and announce that there are some people that cannot voice anything in those threads...it's not gonna work. Put simply, there were three threads that we were told not to speak up, because we did not fall in that category that could speak up. Yes, Alex spoke up and told us to respect that wish...of course, it didnt work. Since when do we ever listen to anyone in authority???? Come on. If they got questions, just answer them or refer them to someone else...don't flame those people in the posts, other threads, shout favortism, cuss them out in PMs, stalk them in AIMs...it's not gonna work. It will create hard feelings among members, and eventually, friendships.

All in all, if you want to leave AllDeaf, by all means, do so...but do not expect EVERYONE to beg you to stay. Some will say, oh please stay! Some will say, go ahead and leave, some will say do as you want to but the majority will just not say anything. Why?

Because...for one thing...you will probably come back, which the majority do so. Some of you may leave for good, and you will soon all be forgotten, except for a FEW loyal few.

So, go ahead and have your temper tantrum, go ahead and get your feelings hurt, go ahead and say that you are leaving AD. The majority will not say anything. It's that simple.

AllDeaf was formed so that we could speak up ~ and by golly, we gonna speak up!!!!

*whistling* With that, I'm gonna step off the over-used soapbox, put it up against the wall for the next speaker with an agenda, and steal a banana martini from Lev and just sit with my feet in the heated pool.

Smiles.
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You ROCK, girl! :applause: You've said it better than I could have said it. My thoughts are exactly what you just said. I think AD is a WONDERFUL website that we all can get together and share information and feedbacks...as long as we respect that all of us are different and have different opinions.
 
Roadrunner said:
A very well written and constructive point of view--

Generally it would do anyone the benefit of taking whatever time it is needed to quash flaming tempers, etc. so then the posts created will come across better with calmer tones and less offensive to others.

Keeping the peace and reconsidering just how a certain action is deemed worthy and appropriate for others to 'see'...maintaining integrity and a way of being able to get along with others even to a point where we can each agree to disagree in a mature way....although, everyone is entitled to do however one feels despite if others think differently as long as it is maintained and within the 'rules' of AD....For those who like to announce their departure from AD, that's up to them whether it will work or not...the bottom line, if a member decides to leave because of being disgusted, angered, upset, etc., I believe that isn't always a very good excuse for having to leave when generally things will somewhat change later or certain situations can be ironed out, being wrinkled-free to the point of having previous emotions subdued...it's like there will always be rainy days, but surely, there will be SUNNY days as well...in most cases, there are much more sunny days! :thumb:

Good attention-grabbin' thread DD! ;)
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same concept as this "you can run but you can't hide"
 
Roadrunner said:
A very well written and constructive point of view--

Generally it would do anyone the benefit of taking whatever time it is needed to quash flaming tempers, etc. so then the posts created will come across better with calmer tones and less offensive to others.

Keeping the peace and reconsidering just how a certain action is deemed worthy and appropriate for others to 'see'...maintaining integrity and a way of being able to get along with others even to a point where we can each agree to disagree in a mature way....although, everyone is entitled to do however one feels despite if others think differently as long as it is maintained and within the 'rules' of AD....For those who like to announce their departure from AD, that's up to them whether it will work or not...the bottom line, if a member decides to leave because of being disgusted, angered, upset, etc., I believe that isn't always a very good excuse for having to leave when generally things will somewhat change later or certain situations can be ironed out, being wrinkled-free to the point of having previous emotions subdued...it's like there will always be rainy days, but surely, there will be SUNNY days as well...in most cases, there are much more sunny days! :thumb:

Good attention-grabbin' thread DD! ;)
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well said too! :) lol at nozobo.. u can run but u can't hide means u're stalking me! *gasps* hehehe
 
Well, that's their business if, they want to leave. There's nothin' you can do -just because, someone might have said that some certain members are so called " bare face lie " or say " 2 faces" after gettin' to know some certain members.

Like for one, I don't want to make friends who are 2 faces or "bare face lie" within this AD. I prefer to make friends outside of this AD. And, yes it's MY BUSINESS what ever I want to WHO I want to make friends with. I am very selective person and, no one can stop me.
 
Meg said:
Well said.
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:werd:

Well said!

I agree. I wish people wouldn't get so tempermental about everything that goes on here in AllDeaf. Nothing is perfect and there will always be a heated discussion or a thread that at least one person hates. This is a public forum. We can't expect every thread to go the way we expect it to go. If a person creates a thread, that person should understand that it's public and shouldn't be making rules for that thread. I've seen members creating threads and then say, "This is my thread, don't fuck it up!" The next thing I know, those members are IMing me or PMing me telling me what posts to delete... just because they don't like it, it's their thread, and they feel they have every right to choose what posts belong and what posts don't belong. That's being selfish.
 
oww.. (stuck by rope).. you grabbed my attention..
Well said gurl! :thumb:
 
Dang, Cyber, a freakin' juggernaut, huh? Heh.
The thing is, a lot of us already know each other in here through chatrooms and we may not be aware of it. In chatrooms we can always change our names and the words are a reflection of the person using them. In a forum one is hard-pressed to use alternate identities, lol. Heyyy, don't get me wrong, I do not use different names in chatrooms, heh heh heh, yeah right.
But what I am trying to say (abysmally at that it appears) is that you cannot get away from who you are. When you threaten to leave a forum, you are really trying to escape from yourself. You just do not want to deal with it. That happens.
We are so damned fortunate in having this forum, where we could get along or have knife fights.
Peace.
You guys rock.
 
*sighs tiredly*

Being two faced or a liar has nothing to do with this - we ALL have lied from time to time, and if anyone says they've never lied all their lives, then you know you're dealing with a liar.

I know that even my closest friends will lie AND have lied to me from time to time - and I have lied to my close friends from time to time, just to avoid a situation that I may not want to get into at that time.

This is more about announcing that you're leaving AD because of a perceived insult to your ego. What I meant is that you can leave AD anytime, but remember it may be out of anger or embarrassment.

You have the right to make friends within AD or not - if you wanna do it, that's fine and dandy - if you dont want to make friends in AD, that's your privilege. Just remember that what you post here, is for millions of readers, and you know that AD is being read by people that are non-members of AD. If they read what you said, they will think...oh.

I know some of my best friendships were made RIGHT HERE in AllDeaf, and I cherish those friendships every day - and I love AllDeaf for what it is, a chance to voice my opinion, and blast all those that would say I dont have the right to voice what I want to speak, even cuss someone out even if I get a warning...

Look at some of the members here - you might think they have no friends here, but in a small way, they do have friends AND supporters...even when they want to deny that. Because, my gentle reader, THERE are always supporters of EVERYONE here, even if in a small, teensey weensey way.

Look at one permamently banned member - he SHALL remain NAMELESS ... period ... but he did have a few supporters at the very end. That, I have to admit, has to count for something.

You gotta think about that.

Now I gotta replace that damn soapbox again...I'm getting tired of yanking it away from under RR, and cleaning it off. That danged bird!!!!
 
DreamDeaf said:
*sighs tiredly*

Being two faced or a liar has nothing to do with this - we ALL have lied from time to time, and if anyone says they've never lied all their lives, then you know you're dealing with a liar.

I know that even my closest friends will lie AND have lied to me from time to time - and I have lied to my close friends from time to time, just to avoid a situation that I may not want to get into at that time.

This is more about announcing that you're leaving AD because of a perceived insult to your ego. What I meant is that you can leave AD anytime, but remember it may be out of anger or embarrassment.

You have the right to make friends within AD or not - if you wanna do it, that's fine and dandy - if you dont want to make friends in AD, that's your privilege. Just remember that what you post here, is for millions of readers, and you know that AD is being read by people that are non-members of AD. If they read what you said, they will think...oh.

I know some of my best friendships were made RIGHT HERE in AllDeaf, and I cherish those friendships every day - and I love AllDeaf for what it is, a chance to voice my opinion, and blast all those that would say I dont have the right to voice what I want to speak, even cuss someone out even if I get a warning...

Look at some of the members here - you might think they have no friends here, but in a small way, they do have friends AND supporters...even when they want to deny that. Because, my gentle reader, THERE are always supporters of EVERYONE here, even if in a small, teensey weensey way.

Look at one permamently banned member - he SHALL remain NAMELESS ... period ... but he did have a few supporters at the very end. That, I have to admit, has to count for something.

You gotta think about that.

Now I gotta replace that damn soapbox again...I'm getting tired of yanking it away from under RR, and cleaning it off. That danged bird!!!!
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great going.. :hug:
 
VamPyroX said:
:werd:

Well said!

I agree. I wish people wouldn't get so tempermental about everything that goes on here in AllDeaf. Nothing is perfect and there will always be a heated discussion or a thread that at least one person hates. This is a public forum. We can't expect every thread to go the way we expect it to go. If a person creates a thread, that person should understand that it's public and shouldn't be making rules for that thread. I've seen members creating threads and then say, "This is my thread, don't fuck it up!" The next thing I know, those members are IMing me or PMing me telling me what posts to delete... just because they don't like it, it's their thread, and they feel they have every right to choose what posts belong and what posts don't belong. That's being selfish.
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What if someone made a thread and several members said "Moderators, Please lock this thread, It has no purposed" Does that belong there? Or do you call that being selfish? :mrgreen:
 
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