I was also very honest in an earlier post regarding my initial reaction to my son's diagnosis, I was very honest regarding my experiences with the deaf community, and I was very hones regarding my motives for entering into the deaf community. I have not been defensive in the least. If you can point me to a post that you would have considered to be defensive on my part, I will be happy to go back and read it objectively.
I am talking about personal responsibility. That is quite different from accepting responsibility for another's action or inaction. To accept responsibility for another person's lack of contribution to this thread would be to say that there is someone to blame. That is what we are trying to get away from. Taking responsibility for one's own feeling and motives is what I am trying to get at. What I am trying to get away from is the constant "It was their fault! That's why I did what I did."
No where have I proscribed what "hearing parents have to do" other than to say if they want their views validated, then they must also validate the views of the deaf. That holds true in the reverse, as well.
IMO, no one is responsible for anyone coming to or not coming to this thread. If they choose to come here, it is because they feel they have something to say, or because they want to see what others have to say. If they choose not to, then it is because they either don't have anything to say, or do not want to see what others are saying. One is either willing to endure a bit of discomfort in order to engage in productive discourse, or one is not. No one else is responsible for that willingness or that unwillingness but the individual who exhibits it.
